SEX ED FOR YOU: Where Research Meets Reality Lauren and Holland

This episode tackles topics like age gap romance real-life applications and what conversations we think should preempt relationship attempts. Lauren and I discuss the importance of individuation, developmental age markers, and aligning your longings with potential partners. We give light to the fun aspects of fantasy that enrapt many people fascinated with a person who’s much older or younger than they are and encourage listeners to use their common sense when faced with such situations. We also have a candid conversation about making passing comments in public to people you find attractive and the right vs wrong ways to do so.




ADVANCING SEXUAL HEALTH FOR THE CHRISTIAN CLIENT
HOW TO BE THE LOVE YOU SEEK





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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 



Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

TW: PET LOSS





If you follow us on socials, you probably already know that my (Holland’s) dog, Ollie, passed away recently. This episode was filmed a couple days after we held his funeral. We talk about the funeral, grief, and how we’re all adapting to a new life without our little best friend. We also touch on having funerals/goodbye rituals for past situationships and how that can be really beneficial. 





RESOURCES:

The Playlist we referenced





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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 





Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Y’all, Lauren and I ran to the podcast chairs as soon as Bridgerton Season 3 came out. No S3 spoilers here, but if you haven’t seen S1 & S2 then you should probably watch those first. ;) This conversation was all about the erotic themes of the Bridgerton love stories we’ve seen so far: Daphne + Simon, Anthony + Kate, and the long awaited Pen + Colin. Lauren and I talk through our own favorite scenes from the show and which erotic themes are most common. We touch on the topic of sexualization and how sex is used to manipulate in control in the show. Lauren brings up Julia Quinn’s background and how her dynamic with romance books deeply influences the Bridgerton story. Last but not least, we talk through implementing core erotic themes into real life in healthy ways! Love always, H!













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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 





Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Our very elaborate & nuanced answer to the question: should you date long term, monogamously, or should you casually date in your 20s?



RESOURCES


Polysecure
Ethical Slut
Sex At Dawn
Dr. Caroline Leaf
Pleasure Activism, Adrienne Maree Brown



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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.


Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.


Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

This episode starts off with our quick anecdote to one of our listeners who said they don’t like our new intro: WE SEE YOU, truly! & say, pls feel free to skip it! This sets up the most amazing conversation about consent. I (Holland) found a Reddit post the other day written by a father about his daughter disclosing her discomfort around an adult in her life. This conversation is nuanced in so many ways and opens up the floor for Lauren and I to talk about the fact that abuse does not have just one face. We talk about signs of abuse and quite a few preventative measures you can take to help keep your kids safe! We may be beating a dead horse with a stick on this one, but AGAIN, conversations and communication can save lives. Lauren gives a few examples of how she’s created a safe container for her kid to come to her with vulnerable topics, conversations you can have about consent, and a game you can play with kids to model consent. We open up the conversations to other consent related topics like the Me Too movement and Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent. Hope you all enjoy! Love, H





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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 





Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

This episode is about the importance of learning the art of choice. We sat down for this episode with no particular topic in mind and out came this conversation about how the lack of autonomy and choice making skills in adolescence deeply affect your ability to choose later in life. We empower listeners (and ourselves) to make cognizant decisions about who we surround ourselves with and to critically examine how those people impact our perspectives on life. The entire conversation highly relates to Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent and her book The Art of Receiving and Giving.





RESOURCES


Lauren's current read: The Biology of Belief
The Art of Receiving and Giving, Dr. Betty Martin
Dr. Betty Martin's Book Trailer
The Human Design Book we love



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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. 





Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)