Honest Women Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison

My fiance and I are getting married in a few months, and we've figured out pretty much everything, except for this: he thinks we should keep our money separated, but I think we should combine it...
What should we do?
Join Andrea and Jess for the first ever HOT TAKE THURSDAY, where we answer listener questions in a completely unedited and unfiltered way. We may not be right, but we have an opinion!
Want a deeper dive conversation on the topic of money and marriage? We've got you covered with not one, but TWO episodes:


51. START HERE if you Want to Talk About Money in Marriage (Without Fighting!) (April 16, 2024)


52. Beyond the Budget - The Secret to Having Better Money Conversations With Your Spouse (April 23, 2024)


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Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.
Disclaimer:
Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world.
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For the first time EVER in Honest Women History, we have a topic SO juicy and SO loaded we had to break it into two episodes! This is the second of two episodes all about how to handle money better in your marriage, so go back to last week's episode if you haven't heard it yet (we'll wait!).
Today we get honest about:

The four money scripts: money avoidance, money worship, money status, and money vigilance.

The importance of understanding and aligning spending behaviors with personal values.

Financial infidelity.

How differences in spending habits can lead to misunderstandings and resentment between partners.

How open and regular communication about finances is crucial for a healthy relationship.

How understanding each other's upbringing and attitudes towards money can help create empathy and connection.

How addressing fears and defining financial security can lead to a better understanding of each other's financial goals and priorities.

How having a budget and reviewing it regularly can help couples stay on top of their finances and avoid unnecessary stress.


Plus, Andrea and Jessica are WAY more chill about the money topic than last week (see??? Having an honest conversation does wonders for money stress!); Andrea makes a big announcement; and Jess makes a VERY ambiguous sound effect. Did somebody say motor boating??
Like this episode? Check out these:


49. This One Skill Can Make or Break Your Relationships (April 2, 2024) - in which we discuss how to really apologize... just in case.



24. How to be a Better Communicator (October 4, 2023) - because learning to communicate better can only serve you well when you have to talk about tricky topics like money.


Connect with Us:
WE WANT TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS!! If you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com
Follow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcast
Follow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpc
Follow Andrea on IG: @andreaburkly
Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com
Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.
Disclaimer:
Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world.
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Are we the only ones who love having money, but absolutely HATE talking about it with our partners? Like, sweaty palms, fight or flight, fears of domestic-World-War-3 hate it?
We didn't think so! That's why we're getting honest about how money conversations in our marriages are about SO MUCH MORE than dollars and cents. Join us as we discuss:

A few reasons we're all so freaking weird about talking about money.

Why money conversations can be stressful and challenging in relationships.

Why it's totally common to avoid conversations about money.

How money disagreements can lead a couple to divorce.

How childhood experiences and societal messages shape our relationship with (and thus our behaviors around) money.

Why understanding our own money history is critically important for better money conversations.

How having open and curious conversations with our partners can lead to real connection - even when the money conversation is over.


And a nudge for you, dear listener, to continue the dialogue and seek real connection through honest conversations about money in your own home... cause you deserve to feel less stressed and more connected in your marriage! Even something as simple and open-ended as "What money lessons did you learn growing up?" could start a conversation that gives insight and leads to connection.
Plus, Jess and Andrea reveal how money is currently being handled in their own houses (spoiler alert: one of us is actively involved and one of us currently has the money involvement of a 1950's housewife... can you guess who is who?); Jess shares some wisdom from the 90's about money (Mo Money Mo Problems); and Andrea reveals that not even earning a CPA can release you from the deeper meaning that money takes in your life, if you haven't done the work of reflection and conversation.
Like this episode? Check out these:


23. Unpacking Childhood Labels (September 27, 2023) - another episode that helps you understand the impact your early life has on you today. Get ready for some insight!


27. Hobbies! They're Not Just for Husbands Anymore! (October 25, 2023) - because, when it comes to conflict in marriage, the way we use our time is second only to the way that we use our money.


Connect with Us:
WE WANT TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS!! If you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com
Follow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcast
Follow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpc
Follow Andrea on IG: @andreaburkly
Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com
Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.
Disclaimer:
Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world.
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Today, we're shining a light on a topic that's more urgent than ever: the impact of social media on our youth. Many of us are unaware of the dangers lurking online, and as mothers, we're constantly trying to navigate this digital landscape with our kids. In today’s episode, we get honest about the challenges we face and the strategies we're employing to protect our children. Every parent needs to hear this episode!
Listen to learn more about:

Why the Surgeon General of the United States is calling youth mental health "The defining public health issue of our time."

Recent reports and decade-long research that is calling attention to the growing concerns about the effects of social media use on children and adolescent's mental health.

The history of social media: Then vs. Now.

What we as parents need to consider when it comes to putting smartphones in our children's hands.

And more alarming stats that might make you rethink everything!


Read the book referenced in this episode, written by Jean M Twenge, PhD
Generations: The Real Differences Between Gen Z, Millennials, Gen X, Boomers, and Silents.

Resources (in the event you want to dive deeper!):

Social Media and Youth Mental Health (The U.S. Surgeon General's Advisory)

The History of Social Media

NBC News: Social Media is Driving Teen Mental Health Crisis

American Psychological Association: Health Advisory on Social Media Use in Adolescence

Teens, Social Media and Technology 2022 (Pew Research Center)


Connect with Us:
Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast
Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc
Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly
Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com
Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.
Disclaimer:
Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world.
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If we had to pick one skill that is vital to the health and longevity of our relationships - with spouses, kids, friends, and the world at large - it would be apologizing well. But, if we’re being honest? Many of us really suck at doing this when it counts! Today, we dive into the art of saying “I’m sorry,” - why it’s so dang hard to do, how to do it well, and even when and if we should accept an apology.
Listen to learn more about:

How we learned to apologize

How our relationship history with someone can make it impossible to apologize to them

How shame and guilt show up in apologies

Why saying "I'm sorry" can feel - and be - so vulnerable

The most common kinds of bad apologies

How to apologize like a pro

Why you truly have to feel remorse to deliver a good apology


Plus, Jess shares a truly painful story of a good apology gone bad; Andrea reveals a pet peeve; and we discuss how we got REALLLL tan for you guys cause WE'RE ON YOUTUBE THIS WEEK!
Where on Youtube, you ask? https://www.youtube.com/@HonestWomenPodcast
Like this episode? Check out these:


Reframing Regret: How this Difficult Emotion Can Help You Grow (December 19, 2023) - regret can point us to places we need to apologize... plus, this episode can help you differentiate between guilt and shame.


How to be a Better Communicator (October 4, 2023) - in case you were feeling low-key passive aggressive when you went to send this episode to a frenemy (still send it... just be straight up assertive about it!)


41. The Complicated Relationship Between Mothers & Daughters (February 6, 2024) - did that example of the "apology" that turned into emotional caretaking hit a little too close to home? I'm just going to leave this right here, then.


Connect with Us:
Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast
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Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com
Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.
Disclaimer:
Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world.
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Today, we're celebrating a special occasion – our birthdays! As women, we have been repeatedly told (and led to believe!) that aging is a bad thing. But is that accurate? As we blow out the candles, we thought it would be the perfect time to reflect on our experiences, lessons learned, and growth over the years. So grab a slice of cake, settle in, and join us for a heartfelt and honest conversation about the journey from our younger selves to the women we are today.
Listen to hear more about:


Health: How our relationship with our bodies has changed over the years, including what we have learned about our health as women.


Relationships: How our expectations have changed within our own marriages.


Career and Passions: How they have evolved as we have gotten older, including significant milestones and achievements (and failures!) that happened along the way.


Our Personal Growth: How we have changed since our 20s and 30s, including experiences that shaped us, and how they impact us today.


Plus. Andrea shares how she took her relationship with Jessica to a new level, and Jessica shares one of her many dating horror stories from her early 20s!

Like this episode? Check out these:
(March 12, 2024) - Invisible Labor and the Weight of the Mental Load
(November 28, 2023) - Redefining Happily Ever After
Connect with Us:
Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast
Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc
Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly
Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com
Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.
Disclaimer:
Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world.
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