How Not To Suck At Divorce Morgan L. Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport

Friend, let’s be real, we know that you're tired of pretending that everything is okay.
We know that your gut is telling you that your marriage is not going to work.
So, now what???
If you have EVER wondered:
"What do I do if I think I want a divorce?" - this episode is for you. 
If you're considering divorce but don't know where to begin, this episode is for you. 
If you're just miserable in your marriage, but feel stuck, this episode is for you. 
Don't forget: The DCC is here to help you save up to THOUSANDS on your divorce AND help you avoid making MAJOR mistakes. Get The Divorce Crash Course HERE!
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This podcast was designed to give you information, entertainment and empathy as you embark on the divorce process. 
We know that divorce is hard. We know that it's a long and draining process. We also know that life is so much better on the other side. 
Don't give up. Everyone deserves to be happy. 
You've got this and we've got you.
 
 

With divorce, there are things that you might feel you have zero control over, right? 
Maybe you’ve thought before, “My attorney's not fighting me.” 
OR maybe you're frustrated that your attorney's bills are insanely high and you wish there was SOMETHING you could do so save money.
Friend: I hope you listen to this episode with an open mind because we are going to give you very concrete steps that you can take to help your attorney help YOU so that you can make the most out of your attorney.
And, if you haven't grabbed our DCC yet, go get it here. DCC = Divorce Crash Course
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In today’s episode, we cover- 
-Saving money
-Getting your attorney to fight for you 
-Supplying your attorney with the necessary information to really get the best outcome for your case
-Why it’s important to pay your bill on time
-Why it’s important to stick to the FACTS and leave your emotions out of it 
-A clear example of what it looks like to HELP your attorney HELP you 
Andrea asks some JUICY questions to Morgan, that you don’t want to miss!
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In today’s episode, boooooy did we shed some light on the top asked questions when navigating a divorce. From the quirky laws about eavesdropping, (did you know in Illinois recording someone on the phone without consent is a no-go but in public, it’s fair game?), to seeking multiple opinions like you would for a tricky medical condition – this episode has it all. 
And here's your place to grab access to the DCC: The Divorce Crash Course, yes, you need this! :The Divorce Crash Course
 And hey, for those wondering about GALs and child representatives in custody battles, we've got the lowdown right here.
In this episode we answer: 
HOW to tell your spouse you want a divorce (and the big reason why we suggest NOT doing it on a weekend)
What to do when you feel like your spouse has been hiding finances and is it worth it to continue digging? 
Trial separations before filing! Doing the right thing or putting off the inevitable? 
GAL - what it is and the role that it serves 
How do you know if a GAL is going to help or hurt your case? When do you advocate that you want one? Do you say “I want one”, or is it something that you wait for a judge to slap on to your case? 
Difference between GAL child rep - How would you know when you need one and not the other?
Who does a GAL speak to and who does a GAL not speak to? And is a GAL the same thing as a custody evaluator? Are they going to come into my home and see what my home looks like? 
What does parental alienation actually mean? 
What happens if your ex records your conversations? Are they allowed to do this?
How late is too late is too switch attorneys? 
Experience requesting an order from the judge 
I promise we’re in your corner and here for you and remember, you’ve got this and we’ve got you!
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Oooooh friend - today you are in for an absolute TREAT. We (Andrea & Morgan) uncover the 5 BIGGEST MISTAKES that we see happening when it comes to getting divorced.
AND, to put the cherry on top, you can get even more access to these topics and so much more "hands on help" with: The Divorce Crash Course. 
Literally - this will be your divorce playbook. You want this crash course, you need this crash course. And, like we said in the show, we priced this guide at a low pricepoint so it's accessable to everyone. Most divorce "courses" are hundreds of dollars and take HOURS to complete. Our crash course is different. 
We also made sure that your privacy is protected. The credit card charge shows up as "DCC150", so nothing about divorce is mentioned. 
There's also an Afterpay option, so you can pay in installments.
And if you're on the fence about getting divorced: This course will help you. 
Okay, here's the link: ➡️ https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course ⬅️
 
In this episode, we cover some of the goods inside of the The Divorce Crash Course including:
Hiring a divorce attorney
Kids and the mistakes that people make when it comes to kids
If you should sell your house
Communication with your ex (Andrea’s personal fav) 
How to NOT rush through signing those important documents
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In today’s episode, we have a very first for this podcast & an incredibly special guest - Retired Los Angeles Judge Dianna Gould-Saltman. That’s right - a VERY recently retired divorce judge! (who BTW, has divorced several celebrity couples)
Let's face it- nobody wants to go to court. It’s just not a fun experience. If you're navigating the divorce process, going before the judge is likely a step that you are trying to avoid for several reasons. But for one reason or another, it happens for a lot of divorcing couples. 
So, what do you do you to get the judge "on your side"???
In this episode you’ll learn: 
* An easy thing you can do to help yourself get in the right headspace for court 
* What do to and not to do when you’re actually in front of the judge in court 
* Does it matter if the judge *knows* the attorney who’s representing you or your spouse
* What are some mistakes that Judge Dianna saw in her courtroom over and over 
*What's a "private divorce"??
If you’re going through this nasty thing called divorce and ready to learn how to prepare for court in the eyes of a retired divorce judge…this epiosode is for YOU. 
AND! If you're wanting to hire Judge Dianna Gould- Saltman as your mediator or your private judge...guess what? You can do that! Find her here: https://signatureresolution.com/neutral-CPT/hon-dianna-gould-saltman-ret/
And friends, if your case is going into court then you likely need some more emotional support. Look no futher than our private community. You can find it right here: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity
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In today’s episode, as crappy as it is - we talk about when the abuse gets worse during divorce. It’s not a fun topic, but we would be doing you a disservice if we didn’t talk about it.
We bring in Katharine Rupp, a family law attorney based in California, who shares insights on the legal process of divorce, the significance of being organized and prepared for legal battles, and the usefulness of tools like Our Family Wizard app (hollaaa!) in co-parenting and divorce documentation. 
Expect to hear strategies for dealing with emotional abuse and conflict, learn the importance of communication and documentation in divorce proceedings, and get practical advice for navigating the divorce process more effectively - as per usual!
 
Main Takeaways:
*Importance of Our Family Wizard - (OFW) is a valuable tool for organizing divorce-related information in one platform
*Responding to Attacks (so hard- but DON'T attack back)
*Avoid Escalation and Emotional Response (again, so hard)
*Documenting and Communicating
*Seek Support and Guidance
If you want some more information on how to respond to your POS ex, (hee hee) head here:
http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck
 
Ask your attorney if Our Family Wizard would be right for your case. In our opinion, it can only help give you the boundaries you deserve. 
 
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