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Trigger Warning: This week we are discussing a topic that can feel heavy for some. Our guest is Alreen Haeggquist and we are having a conversation around sexual abuse, assault, healing from trauma, and advocating for yourself and others. Alreen is a seasoned lawyer, author, and advocate on a mission to amplify voices and combat silence around abuse. As always, check in with yourself as this topic can be super triggering, so move through this as you need to🤍


In this episode…
Women feeling silenced Secrets Emotional triggers GaslightingShame Women as sexual objects Belief 

Quotes:

“Keeping secrets is like drinking poison. It really poisons us from the inside out.” - Nikki Spo 

“Not staying silent and starting to let out all the trauma is how we can get out of that shameful mindset and stop the generational pattern of keeping it all in.” -Alreen Haeggquist

“I was really angry. Not about what happened to me, but angry that I had to deal with the messed up stuff and thoughts that I had to deal with this and that I have to clean it up.” - Alreen Haeggquist

“I want women to know you could talk about it and it actually is how you're going to get to the next step and live the life that you didn't think you were deserving of or didn't think you could have.” - Alreen Haeggquist

“It is so important to have people in your corner who believe you. I know what it's like to come out and not be believed, and it’s excruciating when you have to try to convince people you've been hurt. It's really such a horrible toxic place to be in.” - Nikki Spo 

“Sharing what happened to you with other people is healing in and of itself.” -  Alreen Haeggquist




Timestamps: 
0:00 - 2:15 | Intro
2:15 - 5:20 | Feeling silenced 
5:20 - 7:20 | Not keeping secrets 
7:20 - 12:15 | Listening to your body  
12:15 - 17:15 | Gaslighting 
17:15 - 23:21 | Silencing as the biggest form of gaslighting 
23:21 - 25:00 | Woman are under attack sexually 
25:00 - 27:35 | Identifying and not identifying as the victim 
27:35 - 29:40 | Helping women from a lawyers perspective 
29:40 - 32:30 | The importance of being believed  
32:30 - 39:55 | Steps to healing 
39:55 - 42:21 | Outro 




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https://www.alreen.com/ 



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www.nikkispo.com  
@nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo


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What is up fammmm! Today we are getting into the topic of cycles… yeah, our monthly cycles. With over seven years of experience as a registered dietitian and a master's degree in human clinical nutrition, today's guest Kate Morton is dedicated to menstrual health and anti-diet culture education. She founded Funk It Wellness with a mission to empower all menstruators, providing them with autonomy over their bodies and helping them make peace with food and their cycles. Tune in to find out more!


In this episode… 
Menstrual cycle Shame around your period A comforting environment Generational differences The 4 cycles Birth control 4 phases = 4 seasons Seed cycling 

Quotes:

“We make up over half of the population and there's not enough studies about us and our bodies and how we function and we are the life bringers.” - Nikki Spo 

“Society does not like to honor aging women and so of course we're not going to talk about sex because our society is so twisted.” - Kate Morton 

“When we're disconnected from our bodies, we don't appreciate them and we don't love them and we don't take care of them the way that we should.” - Kate Morton 

“There's four phases of your menstrual cycle. You feel different in each phase. Your body needs different care in each phase.” - Kate Morton 

“I think people need to understand that my menstrual cycle doesn't make me weak. It's actually a super power that I can use to my advantage.” - Kate Morton 


Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:10 | Intro 
2:10 - 6:55 | The beginning of the period 
6:55 - 11:45 | Birth control 
11:45 - 16:55 | Pros and cons of birth control 
16:55 - 18:20 | Menopause 
18:20 - 20:00 | Body disconnection 
20:00 - 23:48 | Perception of menstruation 
26:00 - 37:25 | Phases of the menstrual cycle 
37:25 - 43:40 | Seed cycling 
43:40 - 48:20 | Open communication about menstrual cycles in relationships 
48:20 - 50:42 | Outro 




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Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!



Connect with Kate  
https://funkitwellness.com/ 
@carbsandkate / @funk.it.wellness 


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www.nikkispo.com  
@nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo


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What is up my loves and welcome back to The Know! Today we are going to chat about a pretty controversial topic…which is polyamory and consensual non-monogamy with Dr. Joli Hamilton. Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside of the lines and she is the founder of the Year of Opening. She has spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibilities. Keep an open mind and buckle up babes because it's gonna get hot!


In this episode… 
The Jungian approach Authenticity Archetype The child, the self, the shadow, the parent, the otherShadow qualities Ego strength Monogamous person vs. polyamorous person Compersion 


Quotes:

“The Jungian approach is one that looks at everything, every symptom, every symbol as an opportunity to know more, not just about ourselves personally, but also to know about the collective.” - Dr. Joli Hamilton  

“Some of the things that have gotten me through my hardest times in life and the trauma and the really difficult things that I have faced in recent years, especially, is being able to see the beauty in some of the really, really ugly parts of life.” - Nikki Spo

“I need to come to know the child, I need to come to know the parental archetypes, the others, all of the others that we find in our romances, and the shadow. And if I don't recognize the shadow that dark bit that you were talking about in there, that messy horrible evil bit that's in there, if I don't recognize that I'm gonna project it all over other people.” - Dr. Joli Hamilton 

“You can't share your trauma with everybody because not everybody has the capacity to hold it, and that's okay.” - Nikki Spo 

“I encourage you to journal, to listen to your dreams, to start writing down what's going on inside of you because if you can start to just sort out what is being projected onto you versus what is authentically yours, that's the beginning of individuation.” - Dr. Joli Hamilton 

“If you feel called to have multiple partners, let's do it well, let's not cheat, and let’s not lie. Let's build a life where this can be done in a nice way that weaves in just the right amount of openness for you and lets you not hurt other people and treat them like objects.” - Dr. Joli Hamilton 



Timestamps: 
0:00 - 2:55 | Intro 
2:55 - 9:50 | What it means to be a Jungian and archetypal psychologist
9:50 - 12:05 | The concept of archetype 
12:05 - 16:25 | Feeling evil & identifying with shadow qualities 
16:25 - 21:35 | Mental health care 
21:35 - 27:03 | Having a less conventional life 
29:15 - 35:10 | The presence of jealousy 
35:10 - 38:05 | ASECT 
38:05 - 41:00 | “Yes, No, Maybe” lists 
41:00 - 43:15 | Co-parenting relationship 
43:15 - 47:20 | Asking the hard questions 
47:20 - 49:54 | Outro 




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Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!




Connect with Dr. Joli Hamilton 
https://www.jolihamilton.com/quiz 
@drjoli_hamilton 



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www.nikkispo.com  
@nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo


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What's up fammm! Today we are talking about money with Amber Frankhuizen, who is on a mission to heal the financial fight or flight response by providing easy investing techniques for beginners. She likes to take the fear out of managing our scary finances. Tune in to hear more about this LOADED topic!


In this episode.. 
Money freedom vs. money buying happiness  A healthy & unhealthy money relationship Why women are weird talking about money Confidence with money Financial fight or flight Financial guru Internal vs. external locus of control 

Quotes: 

“So while money doesn't particularly buy happiness because we need to find those feelings within ourselves, I will say that poverty can't buy anything at all.” - Amber Frank 

“You can have all the money in the world and still be a broken ass person.” - Nikki Spo 

“There's a saying that I love and it's ‘Some people are so poor, all they have is money’”. - Nikki Spo 

“Create a compelling future for yourself. Tell yourself what your life will look like when you're not in debt and tell yourself what you will feel like when you're wealthy.” - Amber Frank 

“So if we sit around on our couches and point the fingers at the economy or the president and blame them as to why I'm not successful, there are other people out there getting successful right now. They just have a different worldview than you do.” - Amber Frank 

“I am not a fearless woman. I am scared of so many things but I think that I am a courageous woman and that courage allows me to face hardships, hard things, difficult things, things that are unpleasant, and things that don't make me happy in the moment.” - Nikki Spo 


Timestamps: 
0:00 - 1:25 | Intro  
1:25 - 2:30 | About Amber 
2:30 - 4:30 | Money freedom vs. money buying happiness  
4:30 - 7:50 | Why women are so weird when it comes to talking about money
7:50 - 15:40 | Financial fight or flight 
15:40 - 21:50 | Coaching tips to healing an unhealthy money relationship
21:50 - 23:10 | Outsourcing your power when it comes to money 
24:14 - 27:45 | Facing the fear of finances 
27:45 - 32:30 | Achieving financial goals 
32:30 - 43:05 | Taking those first steps 
43:05 - 45:55 | Playing the long game 
45:55 - 47:55 | Patterns when it comes to money  
47:55 - 50:11 | Outro 




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Connect with Amber 
https://afmktg.com/amber-frankhuizen / https://oldmoneypodcast.com/ 
@amberincalifornia / @oldmoneypodcast  




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@nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo


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What is up superstars! Today we have the exciting opportunity to speak with Kate Anthony, who is the author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage. 

Kate is the host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast, “The Divorce Survival Guide”, while also being the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, “Should I Stay or Should I Go”, which helps women make the most difficult decision of their lives using coaching tools, relationship education, geeky neuroscience, community support, and deep self work. Tune in to hear about how she does it all! 


In this episode…
Making the D word decision Coping mechanisms & survival tools Trusting your capital S Self When you know, you know Leaving the unhealthy relationship Couples therapy Abusive relationshipsNarcissism within relationships  

Quotes:

“We can acknowledge that lasting relationships happen by compromising your way to success rather than settling into dissatisfaction, and that couples need to be really intentional about growing together and choosing to love each other, which is an action, not just this concept.” - Nikki Spo 

“The deep self work needs to come first. Connecting with your inner guide, quieting all of the noise and dropping in and hearing what that voice says.” - Kate Anthony 

“Women are exhausted in their marriage I think because the entire institution of marriage is set up to serve and benefit men on the back of the labor of women.” - Kate Anthony 

“If you're in an abusive relationship, your partner is not in the relationship for the same reasons that you are. You're in this relationship for intimacy and connection, they're in it for power and control.” - Kate Anthony 

“Everybody's a work in progress. I am on a continuous journey of healing and getting better.” - Nikki Spo


Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:00 | Intro 
2:00 - 4:25 | Wanting a partnership 
4:25 - 5:10 | Acknowledging that people change over time 
5:10 - 8:25 | The first step when trying to make the D word decision
8:25 - 11:00 | Learning to trust your capital S Self 
11:00 - 12:15 | When you know, you know 
12:15 - 19:45 | Why women are so unhappy in their marriages 
19:45 - 22:30 | Couples therapy 
22:30 - 27:53 | Differences between narcissist, sociopath & selfishness 
27:53 - 32:15 | Placing high value on potential 
32:15 - 39:20 | Emotional abuse 
39:20 - 42:30 | Grooming 
42:30 - 46:10 | Helping women exit their marriage
46:10 - 49:10 | Outro  




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SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.



Connect with Kate 
https://kateanthony.com/ 
@thedivorcesurvivalguide  


Connect with Nikki 
www.nikkispo.com  
@nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo 




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Welcome back to The Know! Today we are hearing from skincare industry leader, Allison McNamara. Allison is the founder of Mara, a clean algae-based skin care line, as well as a digital influencer and former TV host. She is a lifelong beauty and wellness enthusiast and is here to tell us all about it.


In this episode… 
Mara startup Taking the leap into different industries Stepping out of your comfort zone Trusting the processMakeup sustainability  Beauty industry double standards The “secret sauce” The impact of sampling 


Quotes: 

“I think that you really have to have some thick skin and know how to ride the waves and be willing to put yourself out there.” - Nikki Spo 

“You can't take the small no’s really personally.” - Allison  McNamara 

“I've always felt a passion for finding better ways of doing things and making the world a better place.” - Allison McNamara 

“I think a lot of people wanna hold on to their secrets, but on this platform we're about sharing the secrets. I want everybody to have access to the information because I think that especially women, when we come together, there's room for all of us at the top.” - Nikki Spo 

“Figure out what you're really good at and then figure out your weaknesses and spend some time getting to be a little bit better at the weaknesses because we gravitate towards doing things that we're good at when we should gravitate towards the things we need to work on.”- Allison McNamara 


Timestamps: 
0:00 - 2:05 | Introduction 
2:05 - 4:15 | The startup of Mara 
4:15 - 6:30 | Starting the new chapter of Mara 
6:30 - 8:10 | Taking the leap into the next industry 
8:10 - 10:10 | Being clear on your mission 
10:10 - 11:55 | The beauty industry double standards 
11:55 - 13:20 | Family influences 
13:20 - 14:40 | Benefits of launching with one hero product 
14:40 - 21:30 | Personal connections in building Mara’s presence 
21:30 - 23:55 | Sustainable skin care products  
23:55 - 28:20 | What’s next for Mara
28:20 - 29:10 | How Mara reached Hailey Bieber! 
29:10 - 30:55 | Pivoting from challenges 
30:55 - 36:35 | Pieces of advice for new entrepreneurs 
36:35 - 38:02 - Outro 




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SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.




Connect with Aliison & Mara 
https://themarabeauty.com/pages/our-story 
@allisonmcnamara / @themarabeauty 



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www.nikkispo.com  
@nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo


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