Ballroom State of Mind Amber Haider

You've done it. You've gotten yourself here. You are ready. This is my pep talk for you on the big day. It's gameday and it's time to shine. You can do this and I'm so proud of you!



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"I don't want to disappoint my teacher."

"When this is all done, I don't want to feel disappointed."

Disappointment. So many of my clients put themselves through a lot of stress and anxiety in preparation for events, showcases, medal exams and competitions. When we dig a little deeper to see why we are so stressed, many of them end up saying something to the effect of, "I just don't want to disappoint ______." It's usually their teacher, but it also includes themselves.

Disappointment must be pretty bad for us to create all this negative energy in preparation for it. But is it?

In this episode we speak to two key points when it comes to disappointment. One is that we can't create disappointment in other people. And the second is how we need to make peace with people feeling negative emotion and that nothing has gone wrong if they do.

Listen in to see what I mean.

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In this episode we talk a little about The Emerald Ball 2024, dancing syllabus routines in open rounds, what judges say about that, and what to do with your backseat driver.

Your backseat driver is the voice in your head that pops up at the most inopportune times and gets in the way of what you are trying to do in difficult moments.

Listen in and see if you can relate.

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Where did you get the idea about how much it would take to accomplish a certain goal? Sometimes we look around and make a guess based on what we see, but often we are also REALLY wrong. It often takes a lot more than we thought to accomplish things we set out to do.

If you find yourself in this place, you could call it Effort Shock. David Wong brought up this term in his article, 'How The Karate Kid Ruined the Modern World.' It what he named that state when you realize it's not as easy as you thought. It doesn't help that The Karate Kid and Rocky made it look so easy to become so great...all you need is a montage of about 10 minutes.

In this episode, we talk about effort shock, define it, give some examples and then discuss what to do now, if you find yourself in this place. We talk about 3 options for going forward: work harder, quit, or make peace with what you are willing to give.

Listen in to find out what you might want to do next if you find yourself in effort shock.



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There are a lot of reasons that you might feel behind in your dance journey. Most of the time, that feeling is based in fear and scarcity and is largely unproductive for us to dwell on.

But there is one type of feeling behind that I think makes sense and will probably always be with you.

Listen in to see what I mean. This quick episode might bend your mind a little but I think you are ready for it.



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Ah, the extremes. Our brains just love the extremes. Good or bad, hot or cold, perfect or a failure. Two options is what a lazy brain likes because then we don't have to sift through other options.

But if you experience a lot of all or nothing thinking, you also likely have some depression, anxiety, or a whole host of other negative experiences.

In this episode, I introduce you to all or nothing thinking so that you can identify it in yourself, and then give you 5 steps to overcome it.

I think you'll find a more reasonable, 80% gets it done attitude can not only help you feel better and more motivated, but actually still lead to a lot of accomplishment and success.

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