Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl Cheryl Fraser

“Dr. Cheryl, how can I help my constant negative thoughts?”
“I’m ALWAYS anxious. Is there a way to quiet my constantly running mind?”
“Is it possible to practice kindness?”

Meditation is a traditional Buddhist practice that fits very beautifully into the secular world, into the psychology world, into the mindfulness world, and into the world of us trying to be a kinder, more caring human being to ourselves and others. A metta meditation, or a loving kindness meditation, can be practiced whenever you have a bit of time to yourself. 

Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a metta meditation from a live Dharma talk that I gave last month.  

This is a special episode of the podcast that sounds a little different from the others. This meditation is under 30 minutes long—just make sure you’re free of distractions while you listen. I invite you to come back and use this meditation whenever you feel the need for more calm and balance in your life. 

This episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a metta meditation that begins at (02:19) and ends around (31:00).

Have questions about meditation or about your relationship? Send them to us at Hello@drcherylfraser.com.

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“Dr. Cheryl, how can I overcome my self doubt? It’s ruining my life!”
“How do I break free from the torturous grip that my anxiety has on me?”
“Why has my experience with meditation been unfulfilling?”

We’ve all had that moment of desire and weakness—a good friend buys a fancy new car and we’re overcome with jealousy. Instead of being happy for them and proud of their hard work, all we can focus on is what we’re lacking. But the remedy to this feeling isn’t to go out and buy a new car yourself. Instead, the answer involves practicing generosity for others and focusing on relieving ourselves of that wanting, selfish feeling. 

Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk that I gave last month about the five hindrances that stand between us and happiness. 

The five hindrances get in the way of calm, they get in the way of focus, and they make it harder to accept what is with equanimity—that is, they’re stopping us from being able to go with the flow and to recalibrate ourselves… Without the temper tantrum. 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

The hindrances can get in the way of concentrating on the important object (03:51)

Even when you're well rested and alert in your physiology, sloth and torpor can come like a shadow over the sun (09:18)

The very last wisp of difficulty to disappear before you become a fully awake Buddha is the last vestige of doubt (11:12)

We don't have to have a gigantic temper tantrum to feel exhausted, even a small little worry can be fatiguing (16:27)

When you slow down in meditation, the mind gets a little more acute, a little more precise, and a little more clear (22:55)

Hindrances are like nasty waves that blind us to the calm ocean (28:15)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!

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The doors to Become Passion are OPEN—make sure you and your sweetheart are signed up before they close on May 3rd!!

Join me this Thursday, May 2nd for a very special LIVE Q&A over Zoom - email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com and we will send you the link and time

This week on Sex, Love, and Elephants, I take you behind the scenes as I talk with some of my Become Passion students about their relationship struggles and how they overcame… Today, I’m joined by six REAL couples who have participated in my Become Passion training. 
Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive Become Passion program are open now and close May 3rd! This twelve-week immersion couples program with me, Dr. Cheryl, starts May 3rd.
A failing relationship doesn’t always look like explosive fights and shouting matches and slamming doors… it can just as easily look like apathy and boredom and quiet resentment. What matters most is how you chose to bring those issues into the light—and whether or not you’re willing to fight to make things better. 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

This Wednesday’s LIVE Q&A on ZOOM is your last chance to join me for a free event before we kick off Become Passion (01:20)

Karen and Steve didn’t have nasty fights, but they were struggling with their sexuality as they aged (03:57)

Between kids, careers, and household responsibility, it’s so easy for a relationship to become Marriage Incorporated (07:30)

Lisa and Cam found themselves in flooded arguments that became destructive to their relationship (18:22)

Howard and Karen were separated for 6 months before they found Become Passion and learned how to fall in love all over again (22:29)

Today’s LoveByte (33:00)


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Ready to renovate your OWN relationship? Be one of the few select couples who join me inside the Become Passion – Create Love that Lasts a Lifetime 12-week online immersion program for couples. To learn more and to join, CLICK HERE We begin May 3rd, 2024 and go through July 26th 2024
In today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m going to give you a look inside my Passion Masterclass - a FREE couples workshop I do ONCE  a year. It’s packed with information about the 3 Keys to Passion and much more. I also give you the opportunity to take the next steps in your relationship journey with me as your guide and romance cheerleader! (Yes, you can be both a hopeless romantic and a scientist—fun combination.)
Here’s the good news: You are NOT alone and it's NOT too late… even if it feels like it! In fact, on average, over 30% of the long-term couples I see in my practice aren’t having any sex whatsoever. 
In this exclusive recording of my Passion MAsterclass you’ll learn about the keys to great relationship and how you can shift your relationship from where it is to where you want it to be. You’ll learn that extraordinary Lifelong Passion is 100% Possible, but you must beware of Marriage Inc. (AKA running your relationship like a business). You’ll also learn how to create much more intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—no matter where your relationship is currently.

Want to watch the actual masterclass with video? Click here!

In This Episode, You Will Learn:


The 3 Keys to Passion – What they are, and Why mastering them will help you cultivate great love and sex that last a lifetime 


Intimacy: “Marital Friendship”  Why Learning to Fight Fair is so important. Painful repeating arguments

 Thrill: Why it is so difficult to keep the excitement, attraction, and romance going – and what you need to do about it. Getting real

Sensuality: How to wake up your erotic life. Did you know most long-term couples make love only a few times a month? 


Got a question or topic you’d like me to cover in an upcoming episode? Email me at hello@drcherylfraser.com

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This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you.

You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd. Doors are not open! You can check it out and join the program HERE 

Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you!

Marriage 911! What's your emergency? 
“We are miserable.When do you know to give up? Or is there a chance this relationship can be saved?” ”

Let’s face it, staying in love over the long haul is difficult. You may feel you have fallen out of love, ot you argue all the time, or so it seems. Attraction and desire may feel non-existent. But don’t give up. There are proven steps that can help you renovate your relationship. It takes effort to make long term love work - and I am here to help. 

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On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that reviving the love, communication and yes, even the desire in your  relationship is possible. Whatever you and your partner are experiencing, even when it feels like all hope is lost, it is still possible to begin again 

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Falling in love is easy, but staying in love over the long term takes mindfulness, effort, and dedication (0:11)

The Become Passion Program involves eight weeks of lessons, live coaching calls with Dr. Cheryl where she answers your confidential questions, and bonuses trrainings with other experts in relationships and sexuality (3:03)

The Become Passion 12 week program is an online program (3:44)

The number one predictor of health, happiness, longevity, and more, is the quality of our romantic relationship with our companion - so work on it!  (5:07)

The Become Passion program is an immersion 3 month program and we do the real work. It’s not easy…but it IS effective. Let’s create the change you desire, starting next week!   (6:13)




Let’s Connect!  


Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here 

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If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz


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This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses - choose the time that works best for you.

You’ll also hear about the 12 week Become Passion program—it kicks off May 3rd.

Still not sure if Become Passion is right for you? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you!

Marriage 911! What's your emergency? 
My partner and I are getting older and our sex life just isn’t what it used to be. What’s happening to us?

As we age, we all experience changes in our desire, arousal, and body image. In fact, there are changes in what feels like almost everything to do with our sexual life—whether it’s with our partner or with ourselves. 

On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that even if you’ve experienced some big changes to your sex life as you’ve gotten older, there are solutions to the trouble you’re facing. I want you to listen carefully and hear the hope.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

A satisfying sex life for a couple that has at least one male bodied person in it doesn’t have to revolve around a firm erection (01:30)

Women can still have great sex post-menopause—it might just look different than before (04:54)

It's easy to give up when your bodies aren't responding well, but there are solutions out there (06:17)

Sex is a way of connecting erotically, emotionally, and spiritually with our partner and it’s a vital part of life and love (08:21)


Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!

Let’s Connect!  


Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here 

Youtube

If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz


Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram