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From her TikTok and Instagram, @findingmrheight, dating coach Ali Jackson is joined by friend & stand up comedian Erica Spera (@spericaa) to bring you their positive and practical dating approach in podcast form. Their straightforward attitudes, often with some humor on the side, will help you tackle modern dating issues while building confidence and staying authentic to your true self. Follow along @findingmrheight for even more content!

Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast Ali & Erica

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.6 • 422 Ratings

From her TikTok and Instagram, @findingmrheight, dating coach Ali Jackson is joined by friend & stand up comedian Erica Spera (@spericaa) to bring you their positive and practical dating approach in podcast form. Their straightforward attitudes, often with some humor on the side, will help you tackle modern dating issues while building confidence and staying authentic to your true self. Follow along @findingmrheight for even more content!

    167. The Roundup One

    167. The Roundup One

    Erica & Ali are bouncing around in a roundup episode this week, chatting about recent dating-related news items. First, we have some updates from last week’s ep! Then, we dive into the risks of buying a house with someone you’re not married to (Tom & Ariana, anyone?) and discuss why dating apps have been on a downswing.

    Erica has a “friendly” update from her recent speed dating event, while Ali is setting up two first dates for this week.

    Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 38.

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    • 1 hr 8 min
    166. The Female Friendships One ft. Danielle Bayard Jackson

    166. The Female Friendships One ft. Danielle Bayard Jackson

    Ali & Erica are back for another episode about friendship, featuring incredible friendship coach, Danielle Bayard Jackson! Danielle’s upcoming book, Fighting for Our Friendships, is all about the science behind women’s relationships and she brings us SO much knowledge: from deepening your bond with an acquaintance, to the influence our friends have on our romantic relationships, to how we should romance our friends, too.
    In Updates, Ali sees Montana Boy at an event while Erica attends a speed dating event and expresses her continued frustrating at the state of dating on the apps.
    Where to find Danielle: On Instagram @daniellebayardjackson, on TikTok @thefriendshipexpert, at www.betterfemalefriendships.com.

    Preorder Danielle's Book, Fighting for Our Friendships: The Science and Art of Conflict and Connection in Women's Relationships.

    Timestamps: Danielle joins us at around minute 32.
    If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast
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    • 1 hr 20 min
    165. The First Date One

    165. The First Date One

    Ali & Erica have a first date guide for you this week! We’re breaking down everything you need to know: getting from dating app convo to date, pre-date texting guidelines, first date arrival logistics, conversation tips to avoid and awkwardness, and so much more.

    In Updates, Erica finds out why people call LA “Flake City” as she prepares for multiple first dates. Meanwhile, Ali is back from Costa Rica and reflects on her communication with Mr. Worldwide.

    Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 25.

    If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast
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    Recess: Get 15% off Recess Mocktails now at takearecess.com/FMH so you can enjoy your favorite cocktails without the consequences.
    Happy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth for optimal hormone levels and use our code FMH for 15% off on your entire first order


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    • 1 hr 31 min
    164. The Ick One

    164. The Ick One

    Have you ever gotten the ick from a match or a date? Ali & Erica have rounded up all sorts of icks from the listeners and we’re debating them on this week’s episode. It’s a fun and silly one this week!

    In Updates, Ali goes on a thoughtful fourth date with Mr. Worldwide. Meanwhile, Erica is excited to be back in LA for a while, making swiping easier. And, she is still taking submissions to be setup with her DC friends at fmhsetups@gmail.com.

    Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 23.

    If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

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    Sunset Lake CBD: For 20% off all products, go to sunsetlakecbd.com and use code FMH20.
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    Recess: Get 15% off Recess Mocktails now at takearecess.com/FMH so you can enjoy your favorite cocktails without the consequences.
    Happy Mammoth: Check out Happy Mammoth for optimal hormone levels and use our code FMH for 15% off on your entire first order.


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    • 1 hr 12 min
    163. The Pretty Much Done One ft. Julia Mazur

    163. The Pretty Much Done One ft. Julia Mazur

    Have you ever considered picking up and moving to a new city? Julia Mazur, host of the Pretty Much Done podcast, did just that. Having spent her whole life in Los Angeles, she moved to Austin after a break up and has never been happier. And, in addition, to her move, we get into a great discussion about hyper-independence and how it can affect relationships. It’s a conversation you don’t want to miss!

    In Updates, Ali & Erica are fresh off their D.C. show and Erica has some very exciting news for our listeners in the area. Meanwhile, Ali has her third date with Mr. Worldwide and reflects on what she appreciates about him while also enjoying a fantastic birthday party.

    Where to find Julia: On Instagram @pmdpod, on TikTok @pmdpod, at www.prettymuchdonepod.com.

    Timestamps: Julia joins us at around minute 31.

    If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    Have a scam to report? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 about your potential scam and we will weigh in!

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    • 1 hr 29 min
    162. The Thirteenth Hot Topics One

    162. The Thirteenth Hot Topics One

    Ali & Erica are back with questions submitted by you, the listeners! We start with the age-old question: should you give a ghost a second chance? Then, a listener has a crush at work - how can she get this man on a date? Or should she give up? And lastly, we advise a listener who is about to visit a long-distance situationship.

    But first, Ali has quite the day of updates starting with a Montana Boy flirtation and ending with a second date with Mr. Worldwide. Erica shares some amazing career news!

    Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 40.

    If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight . And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can do it all at www.findingmrheight.com/podcast

    Have a scam to report? Leave a voicemail at 929-888-7184 about your potential scam and we will weigh in!

    Thanks to this week’s partners:
    Last Bottle Wines: Sign up at www.lastbottlewines.com and 10% off your first order with code FMH.
    Factor: Head to factormeals.com/fmh50 and use code fmh50 to get 50% off.
    Prose: Take your FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 50% off your first subscription order today! Go to prose.com/fmh.
    Recess: Get 15% off Recess Mocktails now at takearecess.com/FMH so you can enjoy your favorite cocktails without the consequences.


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    • 1 hr 11 min

Customer Reviews

4.6 out of 5
422 Ratings

422 Ratings

Qwerrtythebest ,

Love the pod!

I love listening to this pod. I know some people sense tension, but I see Ali and Erica as two friends with very different personalities who are so comfortable with each other that they aren’t afraid to just be themselves- even if that puts them on different sides. I like the two different perspectives they bring! ❤️

CCSR79 ,

So boring nowadays

This used to be a great pod and I could relate so much and loved the useful advice. Now it’s no longer about dating, Erica is struggling with dating and I feel for her and want to give her a virtual hug because who hasn’t been there? But Ali is just not vulnerable and doesn’t share her experience and somehow went from anxious to avoidant while proclaiming to be secure. I wish them both the very best, I truly do, but it went from one of my favorites to me skipping most weeks or not finishing when I do listen in.

ClairePDX12 ,

Same

As a thirty year old woman dating in a big city, their experiences totally resonate. Really appreciate how openly they share their dates and navigate this crazy process. Hoping we all find love soon!

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