Dating After Divorce Sade Curry

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Episode Show notes:
My guest today is the woman from whom I first learned that codependency was a thing. Elisabeth Klein has been a writer and mentor for Christian women for decades.

In this episode, Elisabeth shares her story of a 20-year marriage that ended in divorce due to hidden drinking,  emotional abuse, controlling behavior, and lying.

Despite initially vowing to never remarry, Elisabeth's friends urged her otherwise and she met her second husband, Buzz on a dating app. They have now been married 9 years.

Featured on the Show:
Elisabeth Klein lives with her husband in Illinois. They are parents of nine and grandparents to four. She provides resources to women in difficult relationships and transition through her podcast, courses, books, blog, speaking events, webcasts, private Facebook groups and one-on-one coaching. 
Connect with Elisabeth:
Podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/elisabeth-klein
Website: https://elisabethklein.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elisabethkleincoach/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elisabethkleincoach/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/_elisabethklein

Shame is a painful emotional experience that can stem from childhood experiences and societal conditioning, especially for women.
In this episode, I had Karen C. L. Anderson on for her second guest appearance on the podcast. We talked about her new book, You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma and Shame about generational trauma and shame between mothers and daughters from a personal perspective.

Key Takeaways:
- Recognizing shame involves paying attention to underlying thoughts and beliefs, like "I'm bad" or "I'm unworthy." Drilling down to the core beliefs helps address shame.
- Healing from shame involves developing self-compassion, recognizing triggers, and cultivating moments of joy. Connecting to one's inner child can help treat oneself with kindness.
- Shame is passed down intergenerationally but can be "unlearned" through awareness, understanding one's experiences, and self-care over time with tools like coaching

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Karen is a master-certified life coach and author of several books including You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma and Shame.
Karen works mostly with adult daughters who want to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers...AND has a special place in her practice for mothers who want to do the brave work of unshaming so they can repair the relationship they have with their adult daughters.

Website/Podcast: www.kclanderson.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KCLAnderson/
Listen to Karen's 1st appearance on the Dating After Divorce Podcast:  Dating and Healing Childhood Trauma

Have you ever wondered what dating looks like from the good guys' side?

My guest this week on the Dating after Divorce podcast is Sandy Wiener, a dating coach who works with both men and women.

Sandy shares the what her male clients experience on the apps on their journey to find love and commitment, and what women who date men can do to connect with them.

Key episode takeaways:
- Dating after divorce can be challenging but there are good people out there on both sides. It takes work to find the right match.
- Both men and women experience similar struggles with online dating like unclear profiles, lack of photos, negativity etc.
- Shared values, communication and willingness to do personal growth work are important for building lasting relationships later in life.
- Meeting people through shared interests and passions in addition to apps can enhance chances of finding that special someone.
- Having an open mindset without assumptions and looking at each person as an individual are important for dating success.

Featured on the Show: Sandy Wiener
Sandy Weiner is the Chief Love Officer at Last First Date. She's an internationally known TEDx speaker, dating and relationship coach, author, and podcast host. Her approach to coaching is holistic, encompassing  a hybrid mix of life coaching, Neurolinguistic Programming, and Non-Violent Communication. She’s the author of "Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love", and "Choice Points in Dating; Empowering Women to Make Healthier Decisions in Love". She’s also the host of two popular podcasts, Last First Date Radio and The Woman of Value Podcast, and she believes it's never too late to have the life and love you want!

Connect with Sandy:
Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate/
Website: http://lastfirstdate.com/
Podcast: Last First Date Radio https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/last-first-date-radio/id586220219?mt=2
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sandyweiner1
YouTube Last First Date https://youtube.com/@Lastfirstdate

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In this episode, Jamie Milam shares her journey through divorce, offering wisdom for those navigating the entangled paths of real estate, mental health, and the exhilarating leap back into dating post-divorce. My conversation with Jamie dives into the intricacies of post-trauma dating. We share stories of moving cities and life transitions, underpinning the theme that change, although challenging, can be the catalyst for profound self-discovery. 
We explore the essence of modern relationships – communication and boundaries. With my own dating experiences on the table, we discuss the dance of articulating and respecting needs and expectations, whether in fleeting romances or the pursuit of lasting companionship. Jamie and I lay bare the continuous journey of emotional resilience and the transformative power of open dialogue, providing a relatable narrative for anyone striving to forge meaningful connections in the wake of divorce.


Featured on the Show: Jamie Milam


On her own since the age of 15, overcoming drug addiction when she learned she'd become a mother at 19, rebuilding her life from a single storage tote, to now running 3 businesses, Jamie Milam’s superpower is determination through awareness. Jamie is also divorcee, Realtor, podcast host of Divorced & Determined AF and founder of the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind initiative, all with the mission to empower women to embrace internal and external awareness to make peacefully aligned decisions so they can live the life they desire and deserve.


Jamie’s WebsiteP.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative Divorced & Determined AFJamie’s LinkedIn 

Happy New Year! I’m excited to bring you the first podcast episode for the year with my client, Lee. Lee shares her real experiences of dating after divorce.  She had been on hundreds of dates before working with me. Just a few shifts made all the difference for her to meet the partner she wanted. 
They have young children the same age, have the same spiritual and political values and he gets along amazingly with her family. Plus, he was the exact level of attractiveness Lee wanted. Enjoy the episode!
Discover Your "Core Values Dating Blueprint" And How You Can Use It On:
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