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Hello, and welcome to the start of Season 9!

We're kicking it off with an epsiode about exercise. It's something that a few of you have asked for over the years, and to be honest, I've always felt mixed about. In a society that tells mothers to 'bounce back' after full-term, live births - the pressure for bereaved mothers can be crushing.

Thankfully, we have Casey to talk to us about healthy re-engagement with fitness and how to look after your post-partum body. Casey is passionate about core and pelvic floor health, any exercise you do should consider these aspects of your physiology.

Some terms used:

Diastasis - When the muscles of the abdomen separate during or after pregnancy.

Pelvic Floor - Several muscle, ligaments and fascia attached to your pelvis. Damaged/weakened pelvic floor muscles can lead to incontinence (leaking wee or poo).

Prolapse - Pelvic organ prolapse is when 1 or more of the organs in the pelvis slip down from their normal position and bulge into the vagina. It can be the womb (uterus), bowel, bladder or top of the vagina.

We hope you enjoy this episode and get some good advice and support in how to go about healthy fitness.

You can find Casey on Instagram @twopeaswellness and her website can be found here.

I hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. 

Social media: Instagram and Facebook @TimeToTalkTFMR and Twitter @TalkTFMR
Email is TalkTFMR@yahoo.com
This episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486.

Welcome to today's episode: TFMR for a T21 (Down Syndrome) diagnosis with Emma Parsons. 

Emma had her TFMR in 2009. After having her 20 week anatomy scan,  she was informed there was a high chance her son, Isaac, had T21. This was later confirmed by further genetic testing. Emma talks to us about her decision making process, how she felt quite lonely, the effect on her mental health and how her grief has evolved over time.

She is very open and honest, and we know that many mums out there who have been dealt this particular TFMR card will resonate with much of what Emma has to say about her experience.

We hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. 

Social media: Instagram and Facebook @TimeToTalkTFMR and Twitter @TalkTFMR
Email is TalkTFMR@yahoo.com
This episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486.

Alannah Ross, from We Seek Care, joins me in today's episode talking about returning to work after having a TFMR. Alannah had an abortion nine years ago and found she struggled both physically, mentally and emotionally afterwards.

Feeling unsupported in her own recovery, she set about setting up We Seek Care, a platform focussed on aftercare. Originally, Alannah thought Seek would support individual women and partners, but she soon found she had businesses knocking on her door. We discuss what women need from their employers after a TFMR, how to approach your manager and what you can do if you feel you can't speak with your employer.

Alannah offers a free 15min phone call to help you work out what you may need and how you can speak with your employer. Seek offers aftercare plans and 1:1 coaching that you can access, even if your employer doesn't have a pregnancy loss policy in place. 

We hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. 

Social media: Instagram and Facebook @TimeToTalkTFMR and Twitter @TalkTFMR
Email is TalkTFMR@yahoo.com
This episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486.

In today's episode, I'm talking with two dad's who have gone through the experience of TFMR due to their partner's health. Avi from Western Canada and Jack from the UK join me, and my visiting co-host, Consultant Neonatologist, Nick Embleton, discussing what it has been like for them trying to support their wives while also grieving at the same time.
This is the second in our series talking to father's about their grief and experiences. Episode 45 is the first in this series with my co-host Nick, speaking to four dad's from the UK. We also have Episode 31 with Rasmus, who gives a raw and heartfelt account of his experience.

We hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. 

Social media: Instagram and Facebook @TimeToTalkTFMR and Twitter @TalkTFMR
Email is TalkTFMR@yahoo.com
This episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486.

Today joining me to talk about pregnancy after loss is Natasha Williams. Natasha is a highly experienced CBT and EMDR trained Psychotherapist, who has over 20 years’ experience of working with women and their partners. She specialises in working with women who have experienced fertility issues and pregnancy loss, and she is a member of the Parenthood in Mind team.

I asked Natasha your questions about the difficulties of pregnancy after loss for TFMR, and she shares her knowledge of anxiety and trauma with us.

If you liked this episode, why not have a listen to have a listen to Natasha’s colleague and founder of Parenthood in Mind, psychotherapist Julianne Boutaleb talking about trying to conceive in episode 44, or episode 38 where I discuss genetic counselling with Dagmar Tapon and ARC’s Jane Fisher.

We hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. 

Social media: Instagram and Facebook @TimeToTalkTFMR and Twitter @TalkTFMR
Email is TalkTFMR@yahoo.com
This episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486.

In today's episode, I'm speaking with Jane Fisher, the Director of Antenatal Results and Choices (ARC). It's ARC's 35th anniversary this year and we thought it's be a good idea to hear from Jane about ARC's history, why it was created, how and by whom. I also wanted to hear about what has been most present for ARC in our most recent times and where they are headed for the future.

Jane is a very dynamic charity Director. I don't think there are many that happily (eagerly) man the helplines! And this is what makes ARC so special to us TFMR mothers and fathers. It is having a dedicated charity organisation that has the ability to not only understand the nuanced complexities of what this devasting experience of pregnancy/baby loss is like for parents, but also how to communicate this to the wider public in a compassionate and truthful way.

This is a special charity, doing much good, not just for parents, but in also providing training and information for healthcare professionals too. We also talk a bit about how ARC supports HCPs and is at the forefront of research into various aspects of TFMR.

We hope this gives you a good overview of ARC and how it is there to support you. Even those outside of the U.K. are able to access their specialist support.

We hope you enjoy listening. Get in touch and let us know what you think. 

Social media: Instagram and Facebook @TimeToTalkTFMR
Email is TalkTFMR@yahoo.com
This episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486.