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How much emotional pain do couples have to endure before making the healthy changes that often feel so scary to initiate? This is a question many need to ask themselves since it's so vulnerable to break deep patterns of trauma together. Today Christa helps you to work through toxic relationship patterns with London-based psychotherapist and influencer Charisse Cooke as we talk about healing toxic bonding and trauma bonding. You CAN learn to find health and healing again or for the very first time and you're going to learn how right here!
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Have you been wondering how to extend a compassionate hand when you're busy and stressed? Studies show us that people are less likely to show compassion when they're rushing or feeling achievement needs pulling at them, and yet couples do MUCH better when they serve compassion up daily. Today's podcast helps you get regulated so you can become more compassionate together again and teaches you what compassion is really all about! You are healthier, stronger, and more resilient in your body, mind, and spirit when you're helping others with compassion and your marriage gets a needed boost as well. Make sure you tune into this deep dive episode to grab your compassion-boosting specific tips so you can deepen and depend on your love! Listen here!

On this special surprise mini-episode for Swiftie fans and for inquiring minds otherwise, Christa takes you on a journey of finding ways through pain to post-traumatic growth, analyzing through the lens of The Tortured Poet's Department Album (TTPD) from Taylor Swift. Join us for therapeutic lessons, fun, and a few meaningful takeaways for healthy ways to process grief, love, loss, and angst. In this episode we analyze Taylor's vulnerable path forward to healing, adding tips for post-relationship hurt growth healing for you and yours as well! Bring your journal to this pod!
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How do you go from busy and overloaded to present in marriage and family, especially when we know that "turning towards" behaviors are what make relationships succeed or fail long-term, especially when we differ SO much after a long span of time together in marriage? As we strive to connect in a truly frenetic world when we have so much to do along with all of these differences, today Christa is sharing a meaningful and uplifting conversation with you and top podcast expert on the massively successful The Minimalist Mom Podcast and Instagram influencer, Diane Boden, Enneagram 7 (7-5) pairing on the pod! We analyze the 5-7 pairing deeply and then Diane to help us with the gift of her pairing as she gives realistic and life-giving tips for minimalism and experiences so you can truly simplify in an overly complex world!

Specific convos here are:
Diane's 5-7 pairing and what she's learning in her second decade of marriage about becoming less scattered with friendships
Setting systems into place to help everyone in the family, not just one person
Starting in spaces with less sentimental items
Talking with your spouse for 5 min each week to get settled into the rhythms
Finding what you're both on board with in terms of minimalism and getting focused and organized
Find more free mental and physical space with your systems
How to work with the busy chaos and say no more
How to find the jomo (joy of missing out!)
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So many couples hold secrets from one another, but it's not healthy for either of you and you're not likely to tell one another the truth if you don't feel safe. Today we're joined by Laurie Gerber, Type 6 (6-2 pairing) who tells us how she worked from struggle to truth and freedom in her own marriage and gives you tangible tips to thrive from a place of truth. Questions we cover are
"How do you start becoming more truthful?"
"How do you tell harder truths?"
"How can you welcome truth from your spouse so they're more likely to be open?"
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Every couple deals with stress and often they become codependent on each other and get very dysregulated in lieu of healthy boundary setting. Instead, let Christa walk you through the important work of self-regulating and mitigating conflict. When you set boundaries you need, you’ll find both truth and grace help you to meet in the middle as we cover physical, time, sexual, and time boundaries together. We also cover boundary type by type!