Connect The Dots B*tch Amy Fiedler

In this final episode of 2023 and the last episode of season 7, Amy digs into the behaviors of projection, deflection, blame and attack. Why do people behave like that? Amy shares her insights into these behavior patterns and explains what YOU can do when face to face with them. Tune in to hear Amy offer you guidance and a memorable final episode before she takes a brief hiatus after giving birth.
THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES:
• Emotional management
• Self-protective patterns
• Unhealthy coping tools
• A lack of accountability
• Amy’s ‘Hot Potato Theory’
• Navigating difficult relationships

Amy digs deeper into the topic of disrespect and what many of the reasons are for your high tolerance of it. Last week she covered several submitted responses to the question, "Why do YOU think you tolerate too much?" And this week she's tackling even more from over-empathizing, not communicating a boundary is breached to having no limits on extending others the benefit of the doubt. Tune in to hear Amy offer you further insight and your next steps towards changing these patterns and struggles for good!



THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES:


Believing love is 'enough'
Over-empathizing
Poor communication
Avoidant behavior
Not trusting your own judgment
Making excuses for a lack of action + growth
Using your self-awareness as an excuse



As mentioned in this episode, the Boundary Setting for Trauma Survivors Course will reopen enrollment in January of the new year! To hear about it first and receive early bird discounts, place your Name and Email on the Waitlist here.

Amy responds to your submissions about why you believe you tolerate too much and over-communicate your boundaries. She provides you with further guidance for introspection, deeper understanding into your fears and patterns as well as what your next steps are towards changing it!



THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES:


Fears of abandonment
Fears of conflict
Fears of backlash
Boundary Setting with difficult people
Tolerating mistreatment
Childhood trauma
Redefining love
Healing from neglect
Healing from childhood trauma
Adulthood trauma
People Pleasing patterns



The resources mentioned in this episode to support you are linked below!

- Access Amy's recommend Somatic Exercise program here.

- Download Identifying Your Trauma Triggers Guide here.

- Join the Waitlist for the Boundary Setting for Trauma Survivors course, opening enrollment January 2024.

- Join the Waitlist for Rebuilding Self-Trust, re-opening enrollment March 2024.

This week Amy shares the top 3 ways you're shown and taught to not have boundaries growing up. She provides insight and understanding into the fears, unhealthy coping mechanisms and survival strategies adapted from being exposed to this type of caregiver modeling. Amy leaves you with a list of self-reflective prompts to get started reviewing your own relationships and behavior patterns. This episode will support you in identifying any current struggles as we move into what Amy calls "Boundary Season" and help you bring awareness to what you'd like to improve upon.



If you're wanting additional support in the boundary setting process, especially after childhood or adulthood trauma, use this link to join the WAITLIST for the Boundary Setting for Trauma Survivors course re-opening this January 2024.



THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES:


Childhood trauma
Adulthood trauma
Boundary setting struggles
Adverse childhood experiences
Toxic stress
People pleasing
Provides you self-reflective questions to process your experiences.

Amy discusses what is happening inside an individual who is unloading their pain but resistant to making any changes in their life. She digs into the different scenarios you may have encountered with friends, family or even partners and the distinctions between someone seeking validation, wanting guidance or just wanting to complain. She leaves you with insight into how to navigate these relationships in the most supportive ways possible for yourself and for them!



THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES:


Being resistant to growth
Being open to growth
Trauma-dumping
Supportive boundaries
Post-traumatic awareness
Supportive friendships + relationships
Taking advantage of professional support (free + paid)

Amy discusses the concept of "extreme thinking" and what fuels the behavior pattern. She offers her insights into how this binary way of thinking can show up in mental health social media content and perpetuate victimhood. By the end of the episode, you're left with more knowledge on this topic as well as what you will want to work on improving to step away from thinking in extremes!



THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES:


Self-protection + self-preservation
Binary Thinking / All or Nothing Thinking / Black + White Thinking / Extreme Thinking
Self-trust
Victim marketing
Solutions for extreme thinking



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