YMMV: The Non-Woke Sex Podcast Keith and Mike

In this day and age, it's hard to believe how poorly informed men can be about women's sexual responses. This week, we've found a selection of odd male behaviors in relationships which we make an effort to explain.
To wit, what would possess a man to send a list of "mistakes" made by a sexual partner after their first encounter? From my perspective, this only really makes sense if he wants her never to have sex with him again.
If a man reveals his desire for a woman in terms that she might not find particularly alluring, is that his fault or hers? Especially in a people where men are increasingly encouraged to be honest about their feelings. Are women ready for the reality of young men's libidos?
And, can a woman be too wet for oral?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:
https://ymmv.me/166/list
https://ymmv.me/166/virginity
https://ymmv.me/166/condom
https://ymmv.me/166/ridiculed
https://ymmv.me/166/too-wet

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A listener ponders: Given a choice between a series of probably gay activities and pegging, which is the most gay? And, how would we rank-order the experiences which all sound pretty gay, including two men facing each other and then masturbating simultaneously on to a black towel.
Along the same lines, a man really really wants to enjoy being pegged by his female partner, but he just seems unable to turn his prostate "walnut" into the pleasure organ he's been promised. Is he doing something wrong with his technique, or should he give up? And, in general, do men get more pleasure out of receiving anal than do women? I suspect they do.
A couple of men seem to have real problems with their partners' g******s. One got dry heaves when he tried to give oral sex to his partner, and the next isn't even willing to touch her vulva with his fingers. Are these just strategies to get out of pleasuring them, or is something more at play?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:
https://ymmv.me/165/gagging
https://ymmv.me/165/pegged
https://ymmv.me/165/touching
https://ymmv.me/165/double

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The release date of this episode will make it hard for listeners, as they'll have to tear themselves away from the new Taylor Swift album to give us their full attention. Her emotions regarding her most recent failed relationship are notable, if only because they don't really sound like those I would expect from a 35-year-old woman.
But we'll soldier on, even in the face of the Tortured Poets Department. Because, honestly, what could be more tortured than a man trying to provide his woman a little anal fingering, only to wind up with more than he bargained for?
Or, equivalently, a woman who might tip the scales beyond just "overweight" who is propositioned for an MFF threesome by her partner with someone who's ... pretty thin. Should she go along with it, or recognize that the other lady is likely to get the better of the situation?
And, are men supposed to do more work during sex than women?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:
https://ymmv.me/164/anal
https://ymmv.me/164/threesome
https://ymmv.me/164/work

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If one were to try to assign "blame" for men's difficulty in ascertaining whether a female partner has orgasmed, who bears the most responsibility? Traditionally, I would view it as the man's fault. Given our interest in that part of the female body, you'd think more men would conduct significant online research.
But what if women are actively trying to prevent men from understanding how to "get them there"? It doesn't even have to be all purposeful. Some combination of women confused about their own bodies and others trying to make men feel better about themselves might unwittingly be misleading whole generations of men about what they "should" be doing.
Another game-theoretical situation arises around STI tests. In the somewhat unusual case that tests are even exchanged by new partners, is there a good way to know if someone is sharing fabricated test results? And, what would even be the point of doing that, given that most STIs are treatable?
And, are there really any women out there who would be pleased to find out their new male partner has a bunch of sex toys?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:
https://ymmv.me/163/orgasm
https://ymmv.me/163/hours
https://ymmv.me/163/clean
https://ymmv.me/163/toys
https://ymmv.me/163/sti

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Keith wanted to discuss where to place his semen in an early sexual encounter. It's not as simple a problem as it sounds. It requires forethought for each position. And, since the woman may often simply express the desire that he "put it inside," it's a lonely road the man must travel to find a proper exterior setting.
As I sit here in my bed in Dublin, Ireland, contemplating Keith's semen situation, I can't help wondering if this is the same kind of dilemma faced by such writers as James Joyce when trying to frame his life in terms comprehensible to others. The expulsion of semen is a momentary event, but it can be seminal. And, where it's put can set the tone for years to come with a partner.
Speaking of literary masterpieces, we discuss a Reddit user's comment which encapsulates well the feeling of a hard penis, described for the benefit of a young woman who has never touched one. And, we explain why the 69 position usually places the man on the bottom, not the top.

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:
https://ymmv.me/162/69
https://ymmv.me/162/hardness

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There's no way to know the full extent to which people claiming to use multiple forms of birth control are virtue signaling. Sure, it's believable that in early sexual encounters people might use a condom as well as the pill, to protect against STIs. But there's definitely some sort of limit here, and later in a relationship the benefit derived is pretty unclear.
MFF threesomes are pretty commonplace in men's fantasy arsenals. But it's less common for men to think through the mechanics and the consequences. For example, what will the second woman do while he's interacting with the first? And, of course, this is all assuming that the threesome isn't really because the two women want to pursue a lesbian experience.
And, to what lengths might a man go to avoid giving oral sex to his female partner? Should oral sex be considered "table stakes" in intimate relationships?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:
https://ymmv.me/161/threesome
https://ymmv.me/161/plug
https://ymmv.me/161/smell
https://ymmv.me/161/pill

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