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Every relationship has its problems. But, too often, those problems become destructive and even dangerous. This happens in Christian marriages, too. And the church, unfortunately, hasn’t done a great job of dealing with it.
Relationship Truth: Unfiltered is a place for people of faith to find real answers when it comes to destructive relationships.

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Leslie Vernick

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.9 • 326 Ratings

Every relationship has its problems. But, too often, those problems become destructive and even dangerous. This happens in Christian marriages, too. And the church, unfortunately, hasn’t done a great job of dealing with it.
Relationship Truth: Unfiltered is a place for people of faith to find real answers when it comes to destructive relationships.

    Untwisting Scriptures: Seeing Beyond the Spin

    Untwisting Scriptures: Seeing Beyond the Spin

    Leslie interviews Rebecca Davis, author of the Untwisting Scriptures series. 1. The Genesis of "Untwisting Scriptures"
    Discover the origins of Rebecca's groundbreaking series, sparked by the urgent need to address misuses of scripture in handling sensitive issues like sexual abuse.
    Learn how Rebecca's journey evolved from social media advocacy to a comprehensive exploration of scriptural interpretations.
    2. Challenging Authority and Misinterpretation
    Rebecca's transition from missionary storytelling to theological discourse, as she courageously challenges flawed interpretations of scripture.
    Understand the significance of Rebecca's work in addressing gender disparities and offering fresh perspectives within theological discussions.
    3. Addressing Core Issues
    Delve into the critical themes tackled in Rebecca's books, including the misrepresentation of Christian rights and the often misunderstood concept of biblical bitterness.
    Gain valuable insights as Rebecca realigns these notions with the true character of God, providing a roadmap to understanding and spiritual freedom.
    4. Cultivating a New Vision of God
    Uncover Rebecca's mission to correct distorted images of God prevalent in abusive religious environments, revealing the loving, relational nature of the divine.
    Experience a transformative journey toward spiritual clarity as Rebecca illuminates the true essence of God's word.
    5. Reception and Impact
    Explore the overwhelming positive response to Rebecca's work, underscoring the profound need for her message in a world hungering for authentic spiritual guidance.
    Understand the formidable challenge Rebecca's engagement with scripture poses to critics, despite minimal direct confrontation.
    6. Untwisting Bitterness and Beyond
    Delve into the unjust accusations of bitterness often faced by victims in abusive situations, as Rebecca offers fresh perspectives on accountability and forgiveness within the church.
    Gain invaluable insights into navigating complex emotions and reclaiming spiritual agency.Resources: Rebecca Davis: www.rebeccadavisinfo.comUntwisting Scriptures Book series: https://heresthejoy.com/untwistingscriptures/ Leslie Vernick: www.leslievernick.com 

    • 38 min
    Self Esteem: A Biblical Perspective

    Self Esteem: A Biblical Perspective

    Defining Self-Esteem and Self-Image
    Julie poses the question: What constitutes healthy self-esteem, especially from a biblical standpoint?
    Leslie explores the concept of self-esteem in relation to self-image.
    Discussion on the formation of self-image through interactions and perceptions, particularly in childhood.
    Highlighting the role of parental influence and societal standards in shaping self-esteem.
    Understanding Humility and Self-Acceptance
    Expanding on the notion of humility as a component of healthy self-esteem.
    Drawing parallels between humility and accepting one's limitations.
    Leslie emphasizes the importance of embracing truth about oneself and avoiding unrealistic expectations.
    Discussing the difference between self-improvement and self-condemnation.
    Biblical Perspective on Self-Worth
    Julie prompts discussion on what the Bible says about self-worth and identity.
    Leslie highlights biblical verses affirming inherent value and purpose in individuals.
    Emphasizing God's unconditional love and acceptance regardless of human flaws.
    Encouraging listeners to recognize their worth as God's beloved creations.
    Overcoming Negative Self-Talk
    Addressing the impact of negative self-talk and external criticisms on self-esteem.
    Sharing personal anecdotes and struggles with self-esteem.
    Strategies for combating negative self-talk, including renewing the mind with truth.
    Encouraging listeners to challenge and replace self-defeating thoughts with affirmations of truth.
    Balancing Self-Care and Self-Improvement
    Delving into the fine line between self-care and self-absorption.
    Discussing the potential pitfalls of excessive self-focus in pursuit of improvement.
    Advocating for a balanced approach that includes consideration of others' needs and interests.
    Highlighting the importance of nurturing healthy relationships and community support.

    • 36 min
    Surviving Verbal Abuse: Amanda's Courageous Journey

    Surviving Verbal Abuse: Amanda's Courageous Journey

    In this compelling episode, we delve into the courageous journey of Amanda as she navigates through tumultuous waters in her marriage, finding strength, and healing amidst chaos.
    Early Struggles and Expectations:
    Amanda reflects on the early struggles in her marriage, feeling the weight of societal and religious expectations placed upon her as a wife and Christian. The pressure to maintain a facade of perfection made it difficult for her to seek help.
    Impact on Family and Identity Crisis:
    She shares the realization of how her marital struggles affected her children, prompting her to prioritize their well-being over societal expectations. Amanda opens up about the identity crisis she experienced when her reactions contradicted her perceived identity.
    Overcoming Shame and Seeking Help:
    Despite feelings of shame and embarrassment, Amanda reached a turning point when she recognized the need to prioritize her mental health and seek support for herself and her children.
    Discovering Support and Resources:
    Amanda discusses her journey of finding support through programs like Conquer and Walking in Core Strength, which provided her with valuable tools and biblical guidance to navigate through her challenges.
    Facing Reality and Acceptance:
    Amanda bravely confronts the reality of her marital situation, acknowledging persistent behavior patterns. Despite the challenges, she maintains hope and resilience, prioritizing personal growth and the well-being of herself and her children.
    RESOURCES: Join Walking in Core Strength: www.leslievernick.com/strength



     
     











     

    • 38 min
    Is Porn Adultery?

    Is Porn Adultery?

    We have a thought-provoking conversation lined up about a topic that affects many relationships today – pornography. Our host, Julie Sedenko, chats with relationship expert Leslie Vernick, and together they dive into some crucial questions, including whether pornography qualifies as adultery and how to address this challenging issue within marriage and motherhood. So, grab your headphones, sit back, and let’s get into it! 🎙️💬

    • 27 min
    Confronting Depravity: Essential Steps for Abusers & the Abused

    Confronting Depravity: Essential Steps for Abusers & the Abused

    Understanding Abuse Dynamics:

    Andrew and Leslie delve into the multifaceted nature of abuse, encompassing emotional, psychological, and spiritual manipulation.
    They highlight the insidious tactics employed by abusers to exert control and maintain power over their victims, emphasizing the importance of recognizing red flags and setting boundaries.
    Breaking the Silence:

    Both hosts underscore the significance of breaking the silence surrounding abuse and fostering environments of safety and support for survivors to share their experiences.
    They encourage listeners to validate and honor their own narratives, while also extending empathy and understanding to those who may struggle to disclose their stories.
    Navigating Victimhood and Empowerment:

    Andrew and Leslie engage in a nuanced discussion on the concept of victim blaming, emphasizing the importance of holding perpetrators accountable while offering compassion and support to survivors.
    They explore the complexities of maturity and self-empowerment, challenging harmful narratives that perpetuate cycles of shame and self-blame.
    Spiritual Dynamics and Healing:

    In the context of Christian faith, Leslie addresses the challenges faced by women reconciling teachings of submission with experiences of abuse, highlighting the need for discernment and critical engagement with scripture.
    Andrew shares his personal journey of confronting his past actions and embracing a process of self-reflection and transformation, emphasizing the role of truth-telling, accountability, and therapeutic support in his healing journey.
    Practical Steps Toward Healing:

    Practical advice is offered for individuals experiencing abuse, including seeking support from trusted networks, consulting with professionals, and prioritizing safety and self-care.
    Both hosts emphasize the importance of recognizing triggers, practicing self-awareness, and advocating for healthy boundaries in relationships as crucial steps toward healing and empowerment.

    • 51 min
    Keeping Your Cool: Managing Emotions in Conflict

    Keeping Your Cool: Managing Emotions in Conflict

    Leslie and her co-host Julie Sedenko get real about navigating tough conversations, especially when emotions run high in relationships. They dish out strategies for keeping your cool, setting boundaries, and finding your voice without getting lost in the chaos. With a sprinkle of biblical insights and a whole lot of practical wisdom, Leslie and Julie serve up a down-to-earth discussion on how to handle conflict with grace and self-respect

    • 44 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
326 Ratings

326 Ratings

Nurse-grandma ,

Life-changing

I believe God pointed me toward Leslie Vernick‘s book, the emotionally destructive relationship at a crucial point in my life. The advice was life-changing. This podcast is a continuation of Leslie’s work, offering wisdom about how to be a God-fearing woman, embracing the call to be a woman of strength clothed with dignity.

adbick01 ,

A timely gift of a podcast.

I wish I were as well spoken as Leslie Vernick to give this podcast the glowing review it deserves.

The episode I’m currently reflecting on is Jennifer’s story: Surviving Coercive Control. The way she gives language to the destructive patterns in her marriage is so well-thought and heartbreaking to witness. I find language to be very empowering and she uses so many good examples here that I think many women would be able to identify with if they’ve found themselves in an oppressive marriage.

The correlation I found most interesting is the concept of clergy betraying wives by enabling abusive husbands. In medicine, when a nurse/doctor steps outside of their area of expertise and gives advice, there is a phrase for that. It is “practicing outside of their scope of practice.” This can be an error punishable by incarceration depending on how egregious the event. How many women and children have suffered by seeking help and received malpractice of care from their clergy when they have attempted to practice care outside of their scope?

Badge213 ,

Great!

This is a great resource for clarity on some difficult and dark issues.

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