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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled Wondery
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4.7 • 3.5K Ratings
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In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics.
Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.
Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Apple, Barnes & Noble, Google Play, and free at Audible (https://adbl.co/2OBVztZ) with a trial subscription.
Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.
Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.
Copyright JLML Press (2024) All Rights Reserved
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As Our Kids Get Older - 5 Ways to Continue Building Lasting Emotional Bonds
What does respectful parenting look like as our kids get older? Where can we get advice similar to Janet's but for older kids? Janet receives these kinds of questions often and takes the opportunity to answer them in this episode.
Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: NoBadKidsCourse.com.
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The Magic That Makes Kids Want to Cooperate
As parents, we all experience moments when our kids just won’t go with the program – brushing their teeth, dressing for school, cleaning up their toys, going to bed (and staying there). We ask nicely, and they ignore us. Then we ask not so nicely, and they dig their heals in. Before long we’re frustration turns to exasperation, and we either get angry or throw up our hands in surrender. At a certain age, our kids are developmentally programmed to resist us no matter how much kindness and respect we show them. So, what’s a parent to do? Sometimes we wish we could just wave a magic wand. Well, the wands are on back-order, but Janet shares some magical recommendations that will make these interaction so much easier to navigate, win or lose.
Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: NoBadKidsCourse.com.
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Losing It - Understanding What Makes Us Snap (Encore with Elisabeth Corey)
Janet is joined by trauma recovery expert Elisabeth Corey to answer a parent’s email about her struggles to become a respectful parent. This mom says certain behaviors of her 2.5-year old daughter set her off. “I don’t stay calm, focused, kind to my child.” And she believes her own upbringing (“in no way respectful”) is the root cause of her reactions. She is overwhelmed by the responsibility of raising her child and wants to know: “What can I do to help myself?” Janet and Elisabeth consider the common underlying issues of our own childhoods and how we can recognize and heal negative cycles to become better parents.
Elisabeth's work and free resources for parents are available on her site at: www.BeatingTrauma.com
For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible. Paperbacks and e-books are available at Amazon. Also, her exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com).
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Dr. Gabor Maté on Why Parents Matter More Than Ever
Physician and author Gabor Maté joins Janet to discuss the importance of developing secure attachments with our kids and why it's crucial for us to continue nurturing these bonds into their adulthood. How do we remain our children's most trusted influences while also encouraging their natural drive toward individuation? Can we maintain our role as a primary attachment figure when our child is cared for by others? How do we help kids to develop healthy relationships with peers? What's the best way to handle exposure to digital media? Gabor addresses these questions among many others and offers suggestions for maintaining positive attachments throughout our kids’ lives.
Gabor is the author of 5 books and most recently the re-issued Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers, co-authored with Gordon Neufeld, with a new chapter about how the Covid pandemic affected kids' relationships with peers and parents.
Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: NoBadKidsCourse.com.
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When Kids Hide Their Feelings and Reject Our Comfort
We're trying to be there for our kids, let them know we care, and give them positive, healthy messages about their feelings. What could possibly go wrong? In this episode, Janet responds to a parent who worries that when she tries to comfort her upset 3-year-old daughter, the child seems ashamed about her feelings, even angry, and yells at the parent to go away. The parent asks, "Do you have any advice for helping her to be more comfortable with feeling sad or angry?"
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Praise That Encourages Intrinsic Motivation
We can be our kids' greatest fans, and they need us to be. How do we praise them in a manner that truly encourages them? We may have heard that "good job!" or "you're so smart!" aren't the ticket. In this episode, Janet shares her specific suggestions and a simple way we can find clarity on what can be a confusing topic.
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Customer Reviews
Five stars
Love RIE and love Janet Lansbury. Thank you for everything you do! Please keep episodes coming. I think I’ve listened to every one twice! Whenever I doubt myself as a parent (which is quite often) I come back to listen and find my way toward confidence again. Thank you Janet for being such an incredible mouthpiece for these practices!
Gotta get passed the condescending vibes
While I love the overall philosophy here, the delivery is rough. She reads through the emails from parents as if holding back laughter about how dumb they are that they don’t know what’s so obvious to her (the expert). It comes across very condescending and I would be mortified to have a sincere and earnest question read aloud by her! That said, absorbing her overall philosophy has not only made me a WAY more relaxed parent, but it has enriched my relationship with my child. Episodes are short and easy to digest and simple applicable solutions. If you have a specific parenting question there’s bound to be any episode about it and she almost always specifies the age of the child each episode which is really helpful.
Usually love this podcast, but …
The most recent episode with Gabriel Mate just left me feeling really bad and like I’m failing at parenting. I think most of Janet’s listeners are conscientious parents who love our kids and are trying as hard as we can to do things right. But advice like this feels so shaming. Never use any technology in front of our kids, never let them near screens, always be perfectly attuned to them, if possible spend all your time with them… these are impossible standards to live up to for most of us. Usually Janet’s advice is reassuring and grounding for me so I think this is more about Mate than her, but I found it especially disheartening as I get ready to send my 5 month old to daycare.