Who are you‪?‬ Mel Loy

When I started this podcast earlier this year, it was really as a bit of a passion project. I love storytelling and love learning other people’s stories, and I  wanted an avenue to share some of the amazing stories I’ve come across through my network of friends and family over the year. 
Every day we make judgements about people - how they behave and why they behave the way they do. But what I’ve come to learn is that every single person has a story. And those stories are the experiences that have shaped and changed them. When we start to ask about who they are and their lives, we start to uncover so much more about each individual. I really believe it’s by investing in the time to understand people - and sharing their stories - that we start to connect to each other more deeply, and show more empathy and understanding for those around us.
I’ve been incredibly privileged and humbled that so many people have agreed to share their stories with me - and with you - this year.  I can’t thank you all enough for being so open and generous with your stories, and also helping me to bring my passion project to life.
But when one of my besties suggested I should do a podcast episode about me, I didn’t exactly jump at the idea! Firstly, I just don’t think I’m that interesting! But also, I feel really uncomfortable talking about myself. But when I reflected on it, I realised I ask a lot of my podcast guests, so the least I could do is put myself out of my comfort zone and do the same thing. So here it is - a little bit about me!

Content warning - in this episode, I do mention experiences of domestic and family violence. If this content impacts you in any way and you need support, please consider contacting:
1800 RESPECT on 1800 737 732, or Lifeline on 13 11 14.Thank you to my wonderful friend Ashleigh for agreeing to be my interviewer for this episode. She did an incredible job of trying to keep me on track!
This is the final episode in this season of the podcast - I have more stories in progress ready for the next season, which will be launched in early 2022. If you have a story to share, or you know someone who does, please get in touch. You can find me on LinkedIn, on instagram at @heymel.comms, or via my website - heymelcomms.training.

Imagine if one morning you woke up believing you were a dragon … and then two days later, you were you. And then perhaps a couple of weeks later, you were back to being a dragon, or perhaps you are now a big strong tradie.
This is the reality of life for those who have Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), which used to be known as Multiple Personality Disorder. So what causes DID, and what is life like for people living with the disorder?
In this episode, I interviewed psychologist Johanna Knyn whose special area of interest is working with patients  with  DID. She provides insights into the real experiences of people living with the disorder, and dispels a few of the harmful myths surrounding the disorder.
It’s a fascinating insight into how some people can develop altered senses of identity, how we can all be more understanding of people in that position, and what treatment can look like to support people in their healing journey.
Joh is a qualified psychologist who owns her own psychology practice, Guided Healing Psychology, based in Brisbane. She provides psychological support specifically for those who experience Dissociative Identity Disorder and Otherwise Specified Dissociative Disorder. As part of treatment, Joh aims to guide each client on their path to personal healing, helping create harmonious relationships with the self and others (including parts of self), using evidence-based interventions.
You can find out more about Joh and her practice by visiting https://www.guidedhealingpsychology.com or you can find her on Instagram at @guidedhealingpsychology 
Please note this episode does mention traumas that can cause DID that might be triggering for some listeners. If you need support, please consider making an appointment with your GP or Psychologist, or call Lifeline on 13 11 14.

As a young boy growing up with his multi-cultural family in a small country town in Queensland, Rudi Landmann always felt a bit out of place. A self-described nerdy kid who loved reading, science and technology, but shied away from sport, Rudi found it difficult to relate to other country kids, so jumped at the opportunity to move back to the big city for his university studies in space engineering.
When his engineering opportunities didn’t eventuate, he turned to the arts, which would take him on a career path that ended up spanning stints as a speech and drama teacher, a ghost writer, and an office manager before re-entering the world of digital and tech, marrying the love of his life and raising two beautiful boys.
While navigating his career, Rudi also led a very sedentary lifestyle so he eventually decided to do something about his health and fitness, and discovered a love of exercise, to the point where he would eventually own his own pilates studio. But when he’d lost the weight and built the muscle, he realised he still wasn’t happy in himself and who he portrayed himself to be. And this started an ever-evolving quest of discovering his gender identity, and getting himself to a place where he was truly happy in himself.
Rudi is an incredible human and I feel absolutely privileged that he chose to share his story on this podcast. If you’d like to connect with Rudi, you can find him on Instagram at @rudilandmann or Facebook and LinkedIn.

In the last two episodes of this podcast,  we spoke to Jess and Lachlan, and explored how many of us struggle to form a sense of self in our adolescent and young adult years. We also looked into how their career choices both reflected and shaped their identities.
In today’s episode, I sat down with psychologist Nicole Wright to unpack some of the key themes from these two stories.
Nicole is the owner of Rise Therapies, a practice with two clinics in Brisbane. An educational and developmental psychologist, Nicole has a specific interest in supporting women, athletes, performers and young people. 
Nicole also brings to her practice her own experiences of bullying as a child, and that’s just one of the many themes we touch on in this conversation. We explore the impacts of bullying on a person’s sense of self, difficulties in navigating and exploring identity as an adolescent or young adult, and how career choices can be both the result of and help shape our identities further.
If you want to find out more about Nicole and her practice, head to www.risetherapies.com.au, or you can find her on Instagram at @nicolewrightpsychologist. 

This week’s episode is the second where we look at how our career choices help to reflect and also shape who we are as people.
In today’s episode, I talk with Lachlan Palmer, a qualified mechanic and the founder of start-up online  mechanic business Kashy’s.
Lachy’s passion for pulling apart motor vehicles started as a very young child, but it’s also from that time that he began to suffer with a mental illness, which would later be diagnosed as depression. His struggle with his mental health and his idea of what he ‘should’ do as a career path led to a near-fatal turn of events late in high school.
Thankfully, Lachy has come back from that low point to follow the career path that makes him happy, surrounded by great friends and his beautiful fiancé. And he’s also the biggest advocate for getting the right support for your mental health.
In this episode we follow Lachy’s journey from the little kid who was bullied in high school, to the ambitious business owner he is today.
If you want to connect with Lachy, you can find him on LinkedIn or check out the Kashy’s website, Facebook page, and Insta profile.
Please note - today’s episode does talk about suicide and mental health struggles. If these topics impact you in any way, please consider seeking support. For support with mental health concerns, please consider calling Lifelife Australia on 13 11 14.

I was delighted to talk to  my guest Jess Ndenda for this episode. Jess is the founder and owner of two businesses - Olive Louise Social, a digital marketing agency, and The Belle Evolution, a platform to bring together women entrepreneurs and provide networking opportunities, support and resources as they navigate growing their businesses.
While Jess now revels in her life as a busy businesswoman, it hasn’t always been this way. Growing up her sense of self-worth was challenged by an unsupportive family environment, which carried over into her teenage and adult years. As a 19 year old, she fell pregnant for the first time and thought her role in life was to be a mother and wife, and she threw herself into this new phase. But, as Jess candidly puts it, she realised that while she loved her children and her husband, she hated her identity being solely based around motherhood and being a wife. 
Over the years, Jess has been on a voyage of self-discovery as she’s built her business, her family, and her sense of self worth. Her story is one I’m sure many can relate to.
As a side note, in the podcast Jess mentions she’s pregnant with baby number five! At this point, the baby is still cooking but we’re looking forward to meeting the newest addition to the Ndenda family in a couple of weeks.
To find out more about Jess and her work, follow her on all the socials, but a great starting place is Instagram:  @thebelleevolution, @olivelouisesocial, or @mrsjessndenda