104 episodes

We get curious about all things gender, sex and sexuality, as well as relationships, feminism (the inclusive kind), mental health and kink, and all that makes us humans unique and diverse. From body positivity to body dysmorphia, it’s all welcome here. Come with us on a journey of inclusion, acceptance and respect.

This podcast is for you if:
• You're curious and want to learn more about experiences of gender outside the gender binary;
• You are questioning your gender, or
• You have a loved one who is, and you want to learn how to best support them.

Other topics we cover on this podcast include neurodivergence, disability, parenting and family, transitioning, hormone therapy and other medical affirmative interventions, (extreme) body modification, BDSM, attraction types including asexuality and aromanticism, and much more. There is a content warning for sensitive subjects at the start of the episode if it applies.

Esther (she/they/fae) is a creative rebel, intuitive designer, and queer mystic. She's also an artist, writer, truth seeker, and gentle activist. Generally non-conforming, she likes to refer to herself as a ‘rebel with a cause’. Her motto is “do YOUR thing, YOUR way”, and she passionately believes that authentic, unapologetic and at times radical self-expression is the most important gift we can give to ourselves – and to the world.

Wanna know what it takes to be a better ally to gender-diverse folks? Register for our upcoming allyship course and receive FREE resources about gender-neutral language and pronoun examples: https://www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/allyship-course/

Find us on Facebook, Instagram & Twitter: @50ShadesGender
Find us on YouTube. LinkedIn & Patreon: Fifty Shades Of Gender

Fifty Shades of Gender Esther Lemmens

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.3 • 12 Ratings

We get curious about all things gender, sex and sexuality, as well as relationships, feminism (the inclusive kind), mental health and kink, and all that makes us humans unique and diverse. From body positivity to body dysmorphia, it’s all welcome here. Come with us on a journey of inclusion, acceptance and respect.

This podcast is for you if:
• You're curious and want to learn more about experiences of gender outside the gender binary;
• You are questioning your gender, or
• You have a loved one who is, and you want to learn how to best support them.

Other topics we cover on this podcast include neurodivergence, disability, parenting and family, transitioning, hormone therapy and other medical affirmative interventions, (extreme) body modification, BDSM, attraction types including asexuality and aromanticism, and much more. There is a content warning for sensitive subjects at the start of the episode if it applies.

Esther (she/they/fae) is a creative rebel, intuitive designer, and queer mystic. She's also an artist, writer, truth seeker, and gentle activist. Generally non-conforming, she likes to refer to herself as a ‘rebel with a cause’. Her motto is “do YOUR thing, YOUR way”, and she passionately believes that authentic, unapologetic and at times radical self-expression is the most important gift we can give to ourselves – and to the world.

Wanna know what it takes to be a better ally to gender-diverse folks? Register for our upcoming allyship course and receive FREE resources about gender-neutral language and pronoun examples: https://www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/allyship-course/

Find us on Facebook, Instagram & Twitter: @50ShadesGender
Find us on YouTube. LinkedIn & Patreon: Fifty Shades Of Gender

    104. JASON LEE: intersex, transgender (trans man), heterosexual, neurodiverse

    104. JASON LEE: intersex, transgender (trans man), heterosexual, neurodiverse

    Jason Lee is an LGBTQI+ Youth Worker, previous presenter on The T-Boys Show on Pride Radio, and the first legally married transgender person in the UK. Jason's pronouns are he/him, and he is intersex and transgender (a trans man), as well as heterosexual and neurodiverse. Find out what that means to Jason in this episode. We also talk about disconnecting from the body and reclaiming yourself, the role of genetics in hormone therapy, and Gender Recognition Act reform. CW: suicide, bulllying, electric shock therapy, sexual assault, abuse, and trauma. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/jason

    • 1 hr 2 min
    103. RAY BRIGGS: genderqueer, boi, practicing bisexual, T4T

    103. RAY BRIGGS: genderqueer, boi, practicing bisexual, T4T

    Ray Briggs is professor of philosophy at Stanford University, co-host of the radio show Philosophy Talk, and co-author of the book What Even Is Gender? Ray's pronouns are they/them (he/him is also ok) and they are genderqueer, boi, and also a practicing bisexual, and T4T. Find out what that means to Ray in this episode. We also talk about ways to be queer, the expansiveness of the term bisexual, philosophy and decision making, ignoring possibilities, the essence of womanhood (or lack thereof), testosterone's physical and emotional effects, how to define aggression, consent policies, and being impossible. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/ray-briggs 

    • 51 min
    102. CARRIE MARSHALL: trans woman, lesbian, demisexual

    102. CARRIE MARSHALL: trans woman, lesbian, demisexual

    Carrie Marshall is a writer, musician, and author of her memoir, Carrie Kills A Man. Carrie's pronouns are she/her, and she is a trans woman. She's also a lesbian, and demisexual. Find out what that means to Carrie in this episode. We also talk about transness only making sense in the rearview mirror, how much more challenging things can become once you start transition, what the anti-trans movement has in common with the witch trials, being ambushed in the media, why everything is gendered, hope for the future, and walking unafraid. CW: mention of suicide. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/carrie 

    • 1 hr
    101. MATTIA MAURÉE: nonbinary trans, agender, genderqueer, transmasc, autigender, audhd, relationship anarchy, poly, queer [neuroqueer]

    101. MATTIA MAURÉE: nonbinary trans, agender, genderqueer, transmasc, autigender, audhd, relationship anarchy, poly, queer [neuroqueer]

    Mattia Maurée is a composer, writer, AuDHD coach, and founder and host of the podcasts The Longer Road and AuDHD Flourishing. Mattia's pronouns are they/them, and they are nonbinary trans, agender, genderqueer, transmasc, autigender, AuDHD, and queer (as well as neuroqueer). They also use the labels relationship anarchy and poly. Find out what that means to Mattia in this episode.We also talk about being taken seriously when you're outside the gender binary, what counts as an apology and what doesn't, assumptions about presentation, the importance of diverse transition stories, performing gender, how advice for different neurotypes can be conflicting, and navigating intersectional marginalised identities. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/mattia 

    • 56 min
    100. Reflections (part 4): discoveries so far

    100. Reflections (part 4): discoveries so far

    In this fourth Reflections episode, Katy interviews Esther as she reflects on further conversations she’s had with gender-diverse folks, what she’s learned about gender, as well as her own journey and how she and the podcast have evolved over three years since the podcast started. We also talk about the decision to take a break, trusting your intuition, intersectionality, internalised misogyny, using inclusive language, questioning everything, opening conversations rather than shutting them down, what allyship can look like, and reclaiming authenticity. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/reflections-4
    Registration for our allyship course is now open! Find out more on https://fiftyshadesofgender.com/allyship-course/ and join Esther on this journey of exploration, reflection, and awareness. 
     

    • 1 hr 13 min
    99. TASH CORBIN: neurodivergent, non-binary, genderfluid woman, queer

    99. TASH CORBIN: neurodivergent, non-binary, genderfluid woman, queer

    Tash Corbin is an online business owner who helps women and non-binary folk to start and scale their businesses. Tash's pronouns are she/they, and they are neurodivergent, non-binary, a genderfluid woman, and queer. Find out what that means to Tash in this episode. We also talk about what is non-conforming enough, the experience of being sexualised, how showing up with our imperfections builds connection, marginalisation and intersectionality, how we all have internalised misogyny, racism, homophobia and transphobia, seeing each other's humanity, and feeling safe to be yourself. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/tash 

    • 45 min

Customer Reviews

4.3 out of 5
12 Ratings

12 Ratings

Meadowfence ,

Hoorah!

I am so glad to see Esther Lemmens has produced and uploaded a new interview! I love this podcast and the curious, kind, inquiry in each interview Lemmens does. As a trans person, i find it helpful and encouraging.

SophiaWiseOne ,

Open and honest

Such authentic curiosity and sharing!!! Powerful and great show!!

TwixxtedRainbows ,

Boring and non-engaging

The subject and the name of this podcast is very interesting and dynamic. That’s where the dynamic energy ends. The host is extremely monotone and non-engaging. The sense of humor or pertinent, entertaining tone is severely lacking. There are several “hmmms” from the host in response to her guests, where a more fun and entertaining comment would have been so much more effective. The host comes across very dry and boring, which does not make for a pleasant or fun listening experience. This is disappointing as this subject, name and guests featured are so important, but get lost in translation due to the lackadaisical delivery. Oh, and I am the optimal audience for this podcast — queer and non-binary.

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