Get Over Divorce Cole Johnson

There are times where you have to ask yourself that question: “What is the sign for me to know when I’m ready to split?” You get to the point where a proclamation is made of, “Just give me some sort of sign.”
As you go along in your divorce journey, living life is all the ‘sign’ you need. You are deserving of love. You are deserving of prosperity. You are deserving of all life has to offer. Just don’t deny yourself.
Cole talks about the time when he made such a proclamation … and the moment he learned when that sign was already given to him. The LORD already gave you the sign. Now, all you have to do is walk in it.
Many thanks to the following resources for aiding in the production of this episode:
OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES
4 warning signs marriage therapists use to predict divorce (Marni Fierman - psycentral.com)
Should I get a divorce? Experts say these are the signs that you should (Nicol Natale - womansday.com)
10 signs a couple is headed for divorce, according to a marriage counselor
(Matt Christiensen - fatherly.com)

SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE
5 signs your marriage is headed for trouble (Alicia Michelle - crosswalk.com)
What does the Bible say about divorce? When is it allowed? (familylife.com)
When divorce is scriptural and marriage is not scriptural (Malachi 2:11 - blueletterbible.org)
EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Proverbs 21:2
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Subtitle
Savor The Possibilities

Summary
Life can sometimes feel like you’ve been kicked squarely in the teeth. You think that we are probably here to toil and labor in agony. Going through a divorce exponentially compounds that agony.
The reason it is that way is because we focus on things which we did wrong in our past. We also look forward to a future and forecast negative aspersions onto it. What if we were to tell you to appreciate everything that stands before you right now? Don’t worry about the future. Don’t put so much weight on the past. Just focus on the here and now.
See the endless possibilities of beauty in your own life. Why? Because YOU are a gift!
Cole displays the moment he realized focusing on today made him a better, happier, more alive person than dealing with a past that he couldn’t change or a future he hasn’t lived. His life is now beautiful.
Many thanks to the following resources for aiding in the production of this episode:
OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES
Life is a gift, you are a gift
Your life as a gift: How do you want to use it
How positive thinking builds your skills, boosts your health, and improves your work

SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE
Life, a precious gift
Life - a precious gift from God
Everything we have is a gift from God, and all belongs to Him
EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Romans 6:23
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All music by - Cxdy

The most precious commodity in your life, right now ... is you! You now are alone. You have no dates. You may not even have a Girls' Night Out or hang with the boys. You probably don't want to hang with anybody else. You may not want to spoil yourself.

That's why you should! Make it a circle of one night and enjoy yourself. It is allowed.

You need to find happiness right now. Enjoying your own space forces you to find things about yourself that you probably didn't know existed. Don't pay attention to the others. Only fill yourself with the joy you so richly deserve. Love on yourself!

Cole mentions when just a simple trip to the movies and dinner by himself filled him up in ways that, quite frankly, his marriage never did. More than having the freedom to do whatever he wanted, Cole learned to enjoy life again - and not be trapped in his house while his conscience would be busy convincing him of his false unworthiness. Just being among those living their lives made him feel worthy.

Many thanks to the following resources for aiding in the production of this episode:

OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES

Being alone after divorce: (Why it’s okay)
Self-care strategies for how to deal with divorce
When dating after divorce, start with yourself
SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE

Heal first, date later
How to find hope in God in the loneliness after divorce
God has a purpose for your painful divorce
EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Psalm 32:7

Download your copy of the FREE audio How To Heal From Heartbreak now!

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All music by - Cxdy

It is well known that divorce is like a death on earth. You go through a grieving process. However, to say "get over divorce," it sounds callous, harsh and cruel.

This episode explains the title of the podcast. Divorce is a stigma. You get through the pain. In order to get to a better place in life, you must get over all the generalizations of it. You have permission to rip off the scarlet letter 'D' for divorce ... forever!

Cole candidly talks about the moment he realized divorce wore him like a cloak. Just like being 'under the weather', he was 'under the influence of divorce'. He also mentions the moment he made his way out of that stigma - and into the better life which still lay before him.

All music by - Cxdy