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“BE AWESOME”
 
A couple of years ago that 👆quote was being said everywhere
 
Posters were being made
 
It was a thing 
 
It was trendy to have stuff that SAID: be awesome. 
 
What does it even mean to BE AWESOME?
 
Let’s make a list:
Know who you are
Show up big
Do hard things
Be on fire
Create epic stuff
Be willing to do scary ideas
Not back down
Stay positive 
Have courage 
Don’t listen to haters
Keep going
 
All of these are good. 
 
Inspiring. 
 
What about:
 
🌟Loving yourself even when you don’t want to get out of bed in the morning
🌟Letting yourself take a nap
🌟Noticing your body and listening to it
🌟Saying no
🌟Going to bed when you want to stay up late
🌟Turing off your phone
🌟Letting yourself be sad or mad or glad or frustrated and feeling into it on purpose 
🌟Celebrating yourself
🌟Giving yourself a pat in the back
🌟Having a one person dance party when you hit that goal: big or small
🌟Taking a walk
🌟Saying yes to you
🌟Slowing down
 
Often, when we think of being awesome
 
It’s the big showy positive in-your-face types of things we consider
 
But
 
The truth is
 
The big showy things aren’t what make you awesome
 
I’m fact, YOU ARE ALREADY AWESOME.
 
YOU AND ME, we arrived on this planet with this tattooed on our soul:
 
AWESOME
 
Being awesome isn’t up for debate or discussion 
 
We already are
 
We may not believe it
 
Nothing has gone wrong if you don’t believe in your own awesomeness 
 
I didn’t believe in mine
 
I wanted other people to tell me about my awesomeness 
 
I looked for it in projects and accomplishments 
 
All of us do
 
Until we stop
 
Until we start seeing the ways we’ve hurt ourselves 
 
And we start putting salve on those wounds
 
Beginning to love our already existing awesomeness
 
Accepting our awesomeness
 
Even when we do things we don’t like
 
It’s in how we treat our selves on the way to those big showy things that make us see and love and allow our awesomeness. 
 
Saying I love you to yourself even when you do things you wish you hadn’t
 
Celebrating yourself when it seems too small
 
Seeing your fire for its ability to both burn AND warm
 
Loving yourself for all of it 
 
Seeing your desire for quiet and aloneness AND being visionary 
 
Not judging yourself for any of it 
 
Seeing your emotionally messy self AND your ability to hold someone’s pain so carefully
 
Be willing to love both parts of you. 
 
Seeing you desire for structure, order, control AND your ability to make things simple for others
 
Embracing both without shaming yourself
 
Seeing your all-over-the-place-thinking-and-talking AND your bubbly engaging fun self
 
Giving both parts a grateful hug. 
 
This is where your awesomeness lies. 
 
In all of it. 
 
Stop judging you
 
BE YOU:
 
AWESOME
 
What are two contrasting things about you?
 
 
Ready to embrace ALL of YOU? Click here to get started. 
 
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WARRIOR WOMEN TIP:
 
TAKE YOURSELF ON A DATE
 
I spent the day at the:
 
Mint Art Museum 
 
Walking around all by myself, looking at all the exhibits is my favorite…
 
No one to rush me or wonder why I’m taking so long. 
 
My favorite is getting to witness the way a piece was created or the life long work of an artist. 
 
Both types of exhibits remind me:
 
NOTHING HAS GONE WRONG
 
Even if…
 
•It seems like figuring something out is taking too long
 
•Life feels frustratingly like a hamster wheel
 
•My business or a project or a relationship is taking to long to see the results I want 
 
Seeing what artists take a life time to create…
 
Tweak things and try again
 
Then try again
 
Put their work out there 
 
Take more risks
 
Break some rules 
 
Travel across the world to work with mentors
 
Seek out people they admire and don’t give up until they’ve learned what they want to learn
 
Break some more rules 
 
Sit next to artists who inspire them and do exactly what they do 
 
Travel back across the country
 
Keep trying
 
And trying 
 
Tweaking
 
Believing in their dream 
 
Breaking their own brain rules.
 
Seeing these types of exhibits reminds me to zoom out on my life 
 
EVERYTHING is going exactly the way it’s supposed to…
 
Or else it would all be happening differently. 
 
What date would you take yourself on? 
 
 
Dates I’ve taken myself on:
•A random photography exhibit in a random city
•Explored a town 
I had never been to
•Went to the movies in the middle of the day
•Shopped at thrift and vintage stores
•Spent hours walking through a photography exhibit featuring women National Geographic photographers 
•Got ice cream
•Took a walk in a new place
 
If you’re ready to treat yourself, sign up to coach with me. Click here. 
 
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You don’t have to do anything the way everyone else does.   
I KNOW this may sound obvious
 
It’s more HIDDEN than you might think, though. 
 
STORY TIME: 📖
 
Just recently, I was talking to one of my coaches about doing one hour consults. 
 
When I seemed like I didn’t really like doing them she asked…
 
Why do you do them?
 
I said:
 
Because it’s the way it’s done in the industry. 
 
WHAT?!? 
 
Here I am the…
 
‘Break The Rules’
‘Live Unapologetically’
‘Be A Warrior Woman’
‘March To The Beat Of Your Most Alive Self’ 
 
Coach…
 
And I’m doing something I don’t really love because everyone else is doing it!!!
 
What the heck???
 
See what I mean by HIDDEN?
 
It happens without you realizing. 
 
You’re conforming in little ways that you totally don’t mean to. 
 
No more. 
 
The buck stops here!! 
 
Here’s the deal. 
 
No more consults. 
 
If you know. You know. 
 
If you’re ready to work with me, let’s do it. 
 
It’s $5k for six months. 
 
We meet weekly and blow our own minds with explosions of awesomeness. 
 
You do the work of magic and miracles between our calls. 
 
It’s expansive and my favorite!
 
If you have questions, let’s chat. Click the link in the show notes. 
 
If you’re done living by rules you don’t want to live by but you’re not even sure which ones they are…
 
I’m the coach for you. 
 
We will figure that jazz out and get you living a more freaking fantastic YOU. 
 
No more 60 min pre-consults. 
 
WHEN YOU KNOW. YOU KNOW.
 
Let’s go. 🔥💥🔥
 
Click this link to talk about working together. 
 
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I got to be on Lydia Feldman’s podcast talking about: The Power of Taking Selfies!
 

If you do not know Lydia, once you listen to this podcast episode, you are going to want to follow her and be her bestie.
 

She’s effervescent, vibrant, straight talking, real, fierce, and fearless all while being relatable and ICONIC at the same time.
 

I highly recommend signing up for her next Pleasure Salon: Elemental Courtesan.
 
 

Lydia’s words from this podcast episode conversation:
 

Selfie Siren with Davina Fear!
 

Y'all ready to break the internet (and your brain) with some LIT, sexy, powerful images of yourself? BY yourself?
 

Selfie "culture" ala the instafamous-influencers and Kardashians gets a bad rap....
 

BUT what if you allowed the time and pleasure to capture radiant photos on your PHONE could change your life?
 

Your self-concept
Your confidence
Your creativity
Your self-trust
You sexy relationship to SELF.

Listen to our conversation and learn a few great tips on creating a powerful Selfie Session~
Lighting
Set up
Editing
and getting ready mentally!
 
 


Get to know Lydia Feldman:
website
instagram
 
 
Learn More about The Selfie Siren Sessions HERE.

Warriors!
 
Our brains want to cancel/ignore all of our awesomeness!!
 
Don’t let it!
 
This week I’ve done so much brave and bold stuff!
 
YOU HAVE, TOO!!
 
Last night as I was prepping for bed, my brain was like:
 
Wow. You’ve not accomplished your goals. You didn’t get 50 new clients. 
 
(Mind you, my goal was not 50 new clients but my brain likes to be VERY dramatic.)
 
I said to my brain:
 
Hold it right there, Brainiac Maniac. 
 
You are wrong. 
 
W-R-O-N-G
 
I know you like to scan for what’s wrong. 
 
I know that’s your job and all so I can stay alive
 
And not get a fever and die
 
And not get kicked out of civilization 
 
And all that 
 
But
 
You are completely overreacting. 
 
I’ve done A LOT OF AWESOME STUFF!!
 
Then I recounted a big long list of things I did this week that I’m really proud of. 
 
I pat myself on the back for those things. 
 
Then pat myself on the back for calling out my brain. 
 
Then I gave myself a hug for my awesomeness. 
 
And gave myself a hug fir my brain to tell it it’s okay I’ve got this covered. 
 
I know you’re worried. 
 
Then I danced it all out so I get my awesomeness in my body and not just in my head. 
 
I’m sure if you were watching me you’d be thinking:
 
What the heck is happening over there?
 
But dancing to your own music and awesomeness is a great way to live your life. 
 
Pause right now
 
Stand up
 
Tell yourself all your delightfully awesome ways you’ve been showing up
 
💥Tiny
💥Little
💥Sort of cool
💥Very cool
💥Big
💥Ginormous
💥No one noticed but you
💥That thing you did when you were feeling bold and brave
💥The project you started or finished
💥The mind blowing insight you had
💥The time you told your brain to shush and did the scary thing
💥The time you told your brain to zip it and didn’t listen to it tell you all the ways you aren’t enough
💥 When you took that nap
💥 It all counts!!
 
You have lots to celebrate. 
 
I’m here to tell you…
 
You made it through this incredible human experience this week and you did it gloriously 
 
Dance it out, Warrior. 
 
DANCE. IT. OUT!!
 
Looking for a song?
 
I’ve got lots of celebration songs for you on Spotify. (Link in comments)
 
Go dance your heart out, my Dear Warrior. 
 
I wanna hear what you’re celebrating!! 🎉🎉🎉 
 
Do tell!
 
Click this link to talk about working together.
 
 
Check out some awesome dance playlists on Spotify here!
 
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What if you could… 🤔🤩
 
Be your own magical 💫 :
 
•YODA who compels you to do the hard thing, take the risk, and 100% believes in you even when you doubt
 
•KINDNESS ADVOCATE who doesn’t let you say mean things to yourself
 
•PERSON WHO SAYS to you “I’m here for you, no matter what you’re going through, no matter what you’re feeling”
 
•SWEET & LOYAL DOG who stays by your side and sits with you when you’re sad
 
•MOM who rubs your back while you cry about feeling like you have no friends
 
•BEST FRIEND who tells you all the reasons you’re awesome and everyone else is missing out
 
•TEACHER who says you’re doing great, you’re learning, and you’re so proud of you
 
•MENTOR who believes in you and the impact you are and will have in the world. 
 
•FORGIVER of everything you’ve ever said or done 
 
•MONK who is filled with wonder at your being-ness
 
•YOUNGER SIBLING who thinks you are genius and believes everything you say and do is also genius 
 
•DELIVERER from your past regrets 
 
•PEACEMAKER with who you are and who you aren’t 
 
•DAD who protects you and keeps you secure 
 
•GRANDPA who speaks deep wisdom to you with zero judgement
 
•LIGHT GIVER who helps you see both your light and gently shines light into your places the light has not yet reached
 
•MERCIFUL BENEFACTOR who bestows mercy on yourself when you say something weird or want to lean toward beating yourself up 
 
•THE RICH RELATIVE who gave you so much money 
 
•LOVE GURU who pours out love on you every second of the day, who believes you are lovable no matter what is going on with you. 
 
•GRANDMA who loves you when it feels like the world is against you and bakes you cookies, hugs you every time you need it, and kisses you on the forehead. 
 
•WIZARD who knows the magical and cryptic things to say or do that help you tap into your own strength, magic, and genius
 
We see these awesome people depicted in movies or books and believe we should have had that kind of person in our life. 
 
Sometimes we look around and think everyone else got all these people in their lives and we didn’t. 
 
Stop looking around. 
 
Instead…
 
Be all these things to yourself. 
 
Choose one of the above. Be that to you today. 💛
 
Believe all of these people are within you, ready to help you and guide you. 
 
You deserve it. 💕🥰
 
Want to share the one you chose? Please do! Tell me in the comments. 😁
 
Click this link to talk about working together. 
 
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